Is it wrong for me to date someone even if...?

this guy and i are really good friends, and he's probably going to ask me out sometime soon, he told me that he likes me and that he needs me, he even broke up with his girlfriend, and has been there for me every time that i needed him, and i like him and we understand each other, BUT last year i met this guy and i fell in love with him, and a part of me will always love him, and hold on to him.


no matter how much i like my friend i dont think i'll ever be able to get over D... i've dated people after i met D (the guy i fell in love with) and nothing could compare to what i had with him, in fact once i even started crying when this other guy was kissing me... i can't just sit and watch life pass by just because i had a really bad crush on D, but i don't think it'd be fair to my friend, because we like each other but i don't think i'll ever love him...


i don't know what i should say, i don't wanna hurt his feelings, it's obvious that we care and are attracted to each other, but i don't feel comfortable knowing that i'm the first on his heart and that he's second on mine...Is it wrong for me to date someone even if...?
Moving on is really hard to do. Since it is the end of the year, why not make it your new years resolution, to give yourself an opportunity to love someone else. Why bother and hold on your past love when love is at your door again. Come on this guy left his girl for you and I think that is deep if he has been there for you.





I know what I am telling you b/c Ive been where you are now. just like you I agree that my ex will always be a part of me and I will hold on to him. But I have realized that he most likely does not think of me anyway. So why be miserable for someone who is not there.. Even though I find myself in love again I know that it will never compare to what me and my ex had, but I am taking it day by day...





So why hold onto those feelings and let someone in your heart again, since your ex has probably moved on already, why not you too...Is it wrong for me to date someone even if...?
yeah you shoule probably tell him the truth.


but hey trying the realationship isnt always bad either, theirs always room in your heart for more then one person. so it might not be as special as D but hey, he really likes you. why not give him what he really wants for the holidays :)
tell him the truth
if you dont love him dont date him
I really think you should sit down and write things down, write out your feelings scribble some poems (: so something for your self because if you truly are confused you should set things out on the table and put the puzzle back together before you put your heart out there - it'll get hurt real bad especially when you're in between people. This has happened to me one too many times. In the end to truly be in love with someone, i've found you have to have them be like a bestfriend. Someone you are comfortable to come to and talk to and someone you can hang out with, without that jittery awkwardness.
It looks like your very confused, just let your friend know what you are feeling and tell him the truth about how you feel towards D. If your still in love with D and you like your friend than you need to make a decision I'm not saying that it will be a good decision, but it'll make you happy and who ever you decided to be with.Just follow your heart and I trust it'll lead you to what you want.


-MZ.ROSS