How to deal with negative people?

I've heard ';Just ignore them'; and ';Just walk away'; but I don't want to be a pushover or get myself involved in something even worse. Someone even told me to fight them.





What's the best way to go about dealing with negative people/bullies?How to deal with negative people?
Well my answer would be different depending on whether you're talking about negative people or bullies, and it sounds like you're talking about bullies...I was bullied a lot growing up, either because I'm small/easy target or because I didn't have money and wasn't cool...idk...but the best approach is to ignore it and don't dwell on it...if you fight, I think you're just fueling the fire...they want a reaction from you...also, you could get in trouble if you fight back in school. Once I fought back and got detention...I guess the only reason you might want to fight back is if it's life threatening...How to deal with negative people?
Negative people have generally one thing in common. They want to drag you down with them, and not necessarily conscious of that either. Misery loves company after all. So the best way to combat negativity is to bring the negativity to at least a neutral or better, a positive level. Use optimism, get them to think about their problems in a better light. How they can learn from their bad experience, how they can deal with things in a better way, how they can see from a better perspective, etc. Give options and advice.


Of course, there are times when sometimes they just need a shoulder to cry on. I've been there and my friends have always been by me for that. When it's really bad, let them cry it out, complain it out, just listen but keep yourself apart and separated from it. Pretend to be a listening counselor and give advice if they ask for it. But at just those general ';I'm gonna be negative'; times, show them a better way of thinking about their ';problems'; (I'm reminded of the song that says ';take all your so-called problems, better put em in quotations';) and be there. Over time, maybe they will change, maybe they won't, but the fact that you are there for them is gonna be the best thing for them.


Just remember to not take their problems into your own heart.
You are using the word ';them'; so I am assuming that more than one person is harassing you. The odds are stacked up against you unless you also have friends that can come to your aid. Most bullies will purposely pick on people who are loners or people they perceive as ';weak';. Next time they verbally harass you, look as confident as you can, and say, ';Thank you for sharing that';. Then just walk away with confidence. Take a martial arts class. Even if you don't end up fighting, this will increase your self confidence. See if you can make some more friends, and having a big friend wouldn't hurt. Good luck to you. There aren't may people who go all the way through school without encountering this, so don't feel hesitant to go to adults for advice. I would go all the way to the principal's office. Why not start at the top? At least it will be on record that you are being harassed if it comes down to a fight, and that will be to your benefit.
This is harder to do consistently but ... try to not take it personally. Have a really good think about why these people are acting this way. It's not that hard to see that when someone is negative it's usually because they're anxious, tense or worked up. Or maybe it's just a bad habit. Whatever the motivation, I think you'll find that negative types are just trying to exert some kind of control or influence over their world and they're feeling frustrated or scared that they can't do this.


If you spend enough time seeing what really lies behind their actions it's hard to stay upset or mad at them. After all, they're just acting out because they've got some problems that they don't quite know how to handle. Practice this all the time and eventually all you'll feel is a kind of gentle sympathy.


Does this help you decide how to act? At first, not really, but the more you understand other people and the more gently and sympathetic you can be, the calmer you'll feel. How they act and what they say won't bother you so much and at some point you'll just kind of know what to do automatically.
Ask them if they have nothing else better to do or why they have no friends. Ask them if it makes them feel any better about their self when picking on others. Stay polite and calm and look straight into their eyes. Make them think about their actions and turn it around on them then politely turn and walk away
Just be positive, maybe it'll rub off on them. In doing so, you can reveal the lack of logic there is in being negative.
One word. Electromagnets.
10 to the face should be enough
Iqnore how simple is that?