Please read this. I am confused. Why do I feel this way?

I was rather close to this guy not long ago. He seemed sweet and quiet, I liked him and we starting sitting together in science. Anyway it progressed a bit more but then I suddenly went off him and dreaded seeing him.


I told him ';I finally know exactly what people mean when they say 'it's not you, it's me'.'; and he looked like he took it pretty well.


he started getting obsessive, telling me on MSN that he wanted to kill himself and everything. I started avoiding him all together because I didn't know how to handle it and he asked me why I had stopped talking to him. Which I really couldn't explain without him taking a gun to his head. I felt really sorry for him so one day I decided to sit by him and asked him for help on my science work. some people started saying ';Oh, Alice, why won't you go out with him?'; (they guessed that he liked me, he is quiet he wouldn't have said anything) and he replied with some really depressing crap about me not liking him even though he loves me (something like that -_-) anyway the conversation went cold and after a while he said ';..I might as well rape you, you won't let me have you any other way.'; I didn't absorb it at first, I just moved away from him in silence but later that night I sat and thought about what he said and realized that he threatened to rape me. (I was a bit slow, I think I was in shock.)


anyway some people found out about it and now everyone in my year hates him. They make fun of him around me and say ';he SHOULD kill himself! the world will be a better place.';


Listening to people when they talk about him and finding out about some of the horrible things he does (he is a champion shooter and he kills animals for fun, like cats and stuff. (even someone's HORSE because he didn't like them!)) I have really begun to hate him with a goddamn passion! but there's a part of me that still feels sorry for him, I don't know how I would feel if he really killed himself...


i go quiet whenever he's around and he intimidates me a lot even though he hasn't said a word to me since everyone found out about his threat.


Why do I feel this way about him?Please read this. I am confused. Why do I feel this way?
Oh I'm so sorry to hear this :(


I can somewhat imagine what you're going through. You were close to him for a while for a reason. There was something about him that you liked, apparently. You felt like that, and feelings about someone don't easily go away. You don't hate someone from one day on another, unless they did something terrible for you. But you feel like you've done something terrible to him, because you suddenly went off him. No matter what awful things he might've said later, you probably still feel a bit guilty about that and you can imagine how he feels. Empathy. That's why you feel that way about him. You're a human being. You hate him for the kind of person he is now, as threatening rape is... really awful and unimaginable. It definately does qualify him as a bastard. But at the same time, you did like him at first and you feel sorry for him as you can also imagine how he must've felt rejected by you.





Now, I can give you all these advices such as 'report him to the police!' and such, but.. there's no way of knowing what the right thing is to do unless you're you. I'm just gonna hope it works out for you :/Please read this. I am confused. Why do I feel this way?
You are still young