What can i do.......?

This has been on my mind for a few months now and makes me feel really depressed a lot..





I'm 16 and I think I have social anxiety..or something like it. I get really nervous and sweaty and hot in situations where I'm in front of other people..even something like answering a stupid question in class does this to me...I'm fine with my friends mostly but even sometimes with them or with friends I don't see often I get all quiet and barely say anything..





It's like my mind is completely blank...I never know what to say. Whether it's thru texting or actual face to face talking I NEVER know what to say I can't think of a single thing. Even someone asking me something like hey what's up leaves my mind blank...and for that reason I don't really text much...





When I'm with a few friends and stuff...usually I end up all quiet and not having fun just because I don't know how to act or what to say...and I feel so self conscious. To make things worse, most people at my school think I'm a complete loser and nerd cuz I get good grades and am so quiet. I just want to be a normal kid like everyone else who can hang out and have a good time..instead I just get depressed because I don't know what to say what to talk about and don't know why. I get really depressed when I think about it all..why can't I be able to talk to people without it being so hard like everyone else can...whenever I meet new people I pretty much don't say anything..only when they ask me something directly i answer and even then it's short and simply answers the question..after hanging out with people I feel really bad because I always think they're judging me and think I'm a loser...always.





What can I do? I think I have social anxiety but not sure..never actually been diagnosed. My parents think I'm just shy but it HAS to be more than that...half the time I have trouble talking to my family! that's just pathetic. I want to be able to talk to people and just relax and have a good time but I never can. It's the worst around girls...not sure why it just is. I've pretty much given up trying to talk more..no matter what I do nothing ever makes it any easier and I'm tired of feeling like crap because of it..





I know it's long..sorry. Anyone have any advice?What can i do.......?
Know that God can help you live a better life if you want Him to help you. You can have a personal relationship with God by saying the prayer below. God is our Creator, all-knowing, all-powerful, eternal, holy, love. God loves us and sent us His Son, Jesus Christ, so we can go to heaven if we know and follow Him. Forever means without end -- time on and on without death. Forever is what happens after we die. Either we go to heaven and be with God forever, or we go to hell which is very bad and painful forever. The good people who are saved believers in Jesus Christ go to heaven. The bad people go to hell. We need to know and follow God in this world to get to heaven in the next world. We follow God by loving and obeying Him and loving others for Him. Jesus Christ, God's Son, is our bridge to God. Jesus died on the cross to cancel our sins. We need to accept Jesus into our life as our Lord and Savior forever to receive God's blessing and forgiveness plus go to heaven to be with God forever after we die. This is about being a born-again Christian. Faith in God is a gift from God. You can pray for faith in God. Just speak out and ask God for the faith to believe in Him and to follow Him. Some people find faith in God when they realize the beauty in the world is made by God. Evolution can't explain the world's natural beauty, for example, the parks in the world, animals, flowers, peacocks, sunsets, butterflies, rainbows, etc. After you have your faith on, you can pray a sinner's prayer to be a born-again Christian. This prayer is very important and should be said with a sincere heart and faith in God. This is the prayer: ';Dear God, I know that I am a sinner and that Jesus Christ is the sacrifice for our sins. I have done the following sins (state these out) and I pray to discontinue these sins. I pray to receive Jesus Christ into my life as my Lord and Savior forever. In Jesus' name, amen.'; I'm Lutheran and I like the Baptist churches too. You could check out a Christian church and also see about their weekly Bible study group as a good way to learn about God's will for your life. You can pray to God about your daily life and have a Christian church pray for you.What can i do.......?
At 16 you're too young to be a ';loser';. And the fact that you get good grades proves that you're not. But you are very shy. Sometimes this is a function of being very smart and finding ordinary teen conversations boring and embarrassing. Do you read a lot more than your friends? And do you read material which is above their level? If so, I'd guess you are a person who won't find your true social niche until you get into college.





Right now you may be trapped in a social milieu which is beneath your abilities. You might anticipate this and hold back your superior comments because you know you will be talking over the heads of your friends and they might reject you for doing this. You probably do have some social anxiety over this fix you're in...but let me assure you it's quite temporary.





Keep up your studies and look forward to getting to college. I'll bet you a dollar to a doughnut that you'll blossom once you've gotten into a higher functioning group of people.
What you have is called being a teenager. I was in your shoes before. A lot of people are, more than you think.





all those ';normal'; people you see.. they just make it look easy. Inside they feel like you, ponder over how to respond to texts, dont know what to say, etc.





people hit this stage at different times. its just something you will grow out of. are you out of your awkward looking stage yet? for many people, this whole mess fixes when they get out of awkward stage and become really pretty.
Just be patient. You will be so much better when you finally get out of high school. Keep your grades up and don't be afraid to be yourself. You are too self conscious. Be kind to yourself





You don't sound like someone who needs medical intervention, but counseling would probably do you good.