Ready to just throw in the towel...?

My wife and I have been married for almost 4 years (been together for 5). The bottom line is she a *********. This is the first time I've ever said this about her, but I'm tired of making excuses for her. She's a spoiled brat, she throws fits when she doesn't get her way, and worst of all, she is absolutely horrible to me. Don't get me wrong, I'm not perfect in anyway. This is a two way street and I'm more than willing to take my share of the blame on this. But at least I treat my wife with dignity and respect regardless of how I'm feeling at the time. My wife completely disregards that. She talks to me like a stranger, or even someone she detests. I opened up to her and told her as tactfully as i could how I felt. You know what she said to me? ';You have a warped sense of reality.'; Obviously there's more to the story but what kind of wife says that to a husband? Am i asking too much for her to nicely tell me I've got her all wrong? I'm at my breaking point. Help.Ready to just throw in the towel...?
I sure hope you two don't have any kids, because it must be hell living in your home.





The secret to a happy marriage, frankly, is for each person to be nice to the other. A home should be the sanctuary from the world, not a battle zone. People will fight on occasion, but the daily interaction ought to be friendly and caring.





I think your wife has gotten into the habit of behaving this way and now thinks this is normal behavior. How did her parents interact with each other? What kind of role models were they for her? That should give you some insight into her behavior.





I know the standard line is for people to advise you to seek counseling and that is what I advise. However, you need a counselor who focuses on behavior modification, not psychoanalysis. The two of you need to learn to change some behaviors (action and reaction) so that this cycle can be broken. The two of you shouldn't approach this looking for someone to determine who is right or wrong, but instead what to do to change things so that you can be a happy couple.





If your wife won't go, then you should go so you can learn to react differently. Somehow, your behavior is rewarding her bad behavior so it continues. You may have to totally ignore her when she behaves this way, to the point where you have to silently walk out of the house when she starts up.





I have a friend whose husband is a heavy drinker. He gets drunk and then agitates her until she reacts. She'll scream, call him names, and then hit him. At that point he feels like he's been sufficiently punished for his drinking and doesn't have to feel guilty about being drunk anymore. This cycle of behavior has been going on for years because she continues to react the way he expects.Ready to just throw in the towel...?
Take a two-week trial separation so you can both see how it fits. Then come back and talk about it. You will either have an increased appreciation for the other or you will not. Only then should you make any final decisions with regard to the relationship.
you dont realize it but you are in an abusive relationship if its over its over get out now you deserve better
There's some big miscommunication going on here. You should get a therapist involved in this one. The therapist will stop the interrupting or disregarding of eachother's remarks, and stop the focusing on what ';i have to say'; and not listening.
divorce now
wow, sorry you are having trouble so earlie in your marriage. i'v been married for 20 years! it is a challenge to be with someone so long, but i love, respect my husband and we are loyal to each other. i would not throw the towel in so soon. i suggest you find a professional to speak with. maybe even marriage counseling. ( any children?) if no children are involved and counseling does not work then leave. good luck!
LOL american women. dude go to meyico and get you a mestizo woman. she dont talk back and make you tacos all day long
don't throw in the towel try a little harder and do things a little different. if she continues to act like that let her know the towel is headed for the floor and what are a plans. don't be sneaky be real so your concious will remain clear. also try to see if there is some hidden anger within her and if so try to help her heal
Yeah this is definitly an awful situation to be in. Your marriage has turned into emotional/verbal abuse and it is no longer healthy. Your wife is acting difficult, though if you still love her and think things can get better you should work on it. Sounds though as if SHE is the one that needs the reality check. Maybe you need to tell her that a seperation is in order. Leave her and move somewhere else for awhile. Maybe that will teach her that she cannot treat you like crap. In the mean time, see if she will agree to marriage counceling to work this stuff out. She is obviously extremely angry about something and she cannot get over it. Due to this, it is destroying the relationship. I think at this point it is beyond your control and you've tried to reason with her enough. You both need some professional assistance to mediate these problems.
You two should try counseling. It sounds like you both are misunderstanding what the other is saying and now it is causing major issues. Communication can be a big issue if you do not know how to do it.
For better or for worse till death do you part. remember those words at your wedding ceremony. I think you need to have a talk with your wife. tell her how you feel. let her know you are not appreciating her behavior. work things out. honestly people have worse problem then that and they wiork it out. i think you guys just need to have a heart to heart. go on a romantic getaway for a weekend or a hotel for the weekend. out to dinner. do something you've never done before. and if all fail try marriage conseling.
Marriage counseling is the best thing for the two of you.
TO BE HONEST SWEETIE MARRIAGE IS NOTEASY AT ALL BUT DO NOT GIVE UP. TRY NEW THINGS THAT WILL MAKE YOU HAPPY STILL BE NICE BUT DONT GIVE IN TO HER BULL S@#$%. LET HER SEE THAT SHE HAS A GOOD HUSBAND. YOU MIGHT EVEN WANT RECORD SOME OF HER ACTIONS SO SHE CAN SEE THE WAY SHE IS ACTING. GOOD LUCK
from a womens point of view throw in the towel