I dunno what to do anymore. I think I fell in love with this guy. But he already has a girlfriend. They've been on-again off-again for so long. They met in 8th grade. Now it's senior year for all of us. I met him last year. I feel so stupid because I haven't known him as long, so who am I to try and mess up what they have. And if he's happier with her, then I won't mess it up because he deserves whoever makes him happiest.
It's just I can't stop crying over him. Every time I start thinking of him or stupid little things we did together, I just want him so bad. And I can't have him, It's driving me insane. I don't want to be crying about him all the time. I've tried to get over him for the last 3 months but every time I think of him, I just feel too ******* sad. I wish I could be his, but I would never want anyone to be forced to love me.
I just don't get why 2 people have to fall for the same person. I wish that was impossible. So am I really 'in love' with this person, if they don't have the same feelings for me?
And tips for getting over it? i've tried to meet new people, they just don't compare to him. I know he has flaws, but I don't care. I still want to be close to him even if he messes up. But I really don't feel like a real friend if I want more. I feel like a scumbag, wanting more, when i should just be happy that he there's. So do I love him? And if I do, how do I stop loving him, cause I shouldn't be? Can you really be in love with someone, even if they don't love you back? And how to stop loving them?
In a way you sort of answered your own question - whether you can love him without him loving you back and how to stop loving him. You can't control love is the answer to both questions!
You can certainly love someone without them loving you back (not just in the dating sense, but even in the familial sense unfortunately) - your love just isn't actualized and taken to a deeper, more meaningful stage of love. I know that sounds weird, but it's how I would describe my love with my boyfriend - our love has grown and evolved into different types of love over the course of our relationship. You can't control whether or not he loves you and it's hard to respect yourself when you love someone and they don't love you back - so don't lose sight of the fact that there are still people who do love and appreciate you.
I don't think you can make your love go away and it does sound like you do a really good job of controlling yourself and respecting him despite your feelings and desires. That can be very tricky (I speak from personal experience!). You have no reason to feel guilty for loving him or for wanting him to be with you -- that's normal! Wanting him to be happy is good too, but make sure that feeling that way isn't at the expense of your own happiness. All of this sounds like terrible advice and idealistic blabber, but dealing with situations like this is about addressing your own emotions and thoughts.
What's important is that you respect his boundaries, which you already do. Don't forget to take care of yourself - you can be a good friend even if you want more and you are a good friend for wanting him to be happy.
This bit may be coming a little late... but you should also reflect on why you think you love him. Is it actually love? You may want to think about what you think love means and why (is it from observing your parents? movies? friends? experience?). It shouldn't be an easy subject to think about, otherwise it wouldn't be so precious and so personal. Take it slow, think on it, and take care of yourself in the meantime.Can you really be in love with someone, even if they don't love you back? And how to stop loving them?
Of course it's possible. But not every relationship gets a happy ending. Not to be blunt, but you sound kind of pathetic and you just need time in order to get over this.
sorry buti dont know what 2 say i havent been in that situation before just try not thinking about him or just let him know how you feel
we want a question that consists of 2 sentenses ..not a university lecture
im sure when u find ur boyfriend u will forget him..in the past time i had a same feeling as u...i was in love with some one who didnt know i love him and all the time i was thinking and crying 4 him.and i have thought that there is nobody to find that loves me...not mutual loves?after sometimes i meet the boy which in the first glance i didnt like him..he wasnt goodlooking at all he want looklike my imagination but he was a good boy..and now its about a year that i fell in love with him..he also loves me very much..and i forgot thinking about someone who never thoughts about me ..hope that my story will work 4 u sweetie
ok so you have a hugh crush on a guy. You need to get your good friends an hang out. someone will come along when you least expect it. you dont want to be a crazy stalker. YOU can always tell him you like him even though he has a girlfriend maybe he is looking for a way out. Love hurts .it takes time
i believe that you are not in love if they don't love you back. hey a lot of people disagree with me..but really i do not think it can even be called love if it's just one way. love is a decision as well as it is an attraction and commitment how can you love someone who you're not in a relationship with.. anyways, i think it's just personal problems and stuff like that...get caught up with things and people get so attracted to other people and they think they will be happy with them...
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