Why is it so hard to move on and forget about someone even though you know it's probably best for you?

Me %26amp; my bf of 8 months just broke up because we just can't seem to communicate well. No matter how hard each of us tries. We agreed to break up (we have both broken up with the other a total of 2 times) but we can't seem to let each other go. We both keep finding reasons to talk to each other. Is it really true that maybe we are meant to be together right now? I just don't know. We've never had any major things happen like cheating or anything, yet we are so much alike that we can't seem to get along. We are both always getting angry with each other over stupid things. I obviously still want to be with him, yet, I know it's probably not a good idea and I am not strong enough to not respond to emails, texts and phone calls. Please help any advise? (we have never told each other we loved each other so it's not a mushy relationship..if that makes sense. It's not about not being able to live without him, it's more like I don't want to but don't know why!Why is it so hard to move on and forget about someone even though you know it's probably best for you?
i know its hard for you but it will take time before you could finally forget him or accept the fact that it is over. try focusing on other things instead. that way you wont be able to think of him. i know its hard at first but keep trying. make yourself busy or go to the mall. watch movie with your friends. have fun with them.. someday you'll just realize that you could sleep at nite, and he's out of your head.. time will heal.. that's for sure. even a mention of his name wont bother you anymore.. who knows, you might end up being good friends..good luck...Why is it so hard to move on and forget about someone even though you know it's probably best for you?
It's over. Move on and find someone new.
It's going to be hard for the first few weeks of breaking up because you will question why you did do it. But you have to realize that your relationship had problems that you felt could not be fixed, which is why you decided to part ways. Try spending time with other people and being independent. Don't let yourself think about ';What-ifs.'; Eventually, you'll feel like you did the right thing.
take all the time u need. cry all u want, when the tears dry up, life will go on.
sweetie take you some me time and get over him
Good communication can be learned---so there is hope for you and your boyfriend.


To begin with, there are expectations we have when we get into a relationship which we do not talk about. For example, if our partner likes to go out with his buddies, a lot of people simly assume that this will stop once in a relationship, and that is not the case. Things need to be talked about, compromises established, and all this needs good communication where each is able to freely adress the issue and how it makes them feel without having to worry about the other blowing up--When we want our partner to do what we want them to do, that's a control issue and uncalled for in a relationship.


So if you 2 cannot let go of each other I would suggest that you sit down together and talk about why, then you adress the issues that made it impossible to keep the relationship going and work out compromises for that. The important part is to STICK to the end of the bargain or it won't work. What's also important is that y ou find a common ground---to see why that part worked.


Good communication requires that you listen him out, that he listens you out, and that issues explained but not understood get back as a question, like ';are you telling me....?';. People do not like to talk about expectations, but those can make or break a relationship....so if you can talk, and decide to give it another try, then make sure that you adress everything: expectations, time together, time with his/your friends, money, whatever is important in this and work out reasonable compromises for those things you do not agree upon together...Good Luck
Maybe your heart is in it TOO much. And only time will heal your heart.





I KNOW FIRST HAND.