What woman in he right mind would TRY to get pregnant with someone they are not married to?

This is driving me crazy, so please justify it. I can't possible ask this without offending some people...but if a guy won't even marry you, how can you expect him to stick around once you have a baby together? Isn't that just irresponsible on your part?





Do women get so desperate that they will settle for anyone, even someone who can't commit to them, just to have a baby?What woman in he right mind would TRY to get pregnant with someone they are not married to?
I understand what you are saying...if you are trying to get pregnant when he said he doesnt see a future then your are dumb because he has already made it clear.You are just trying to trap him.But there are other situations. I myself am pregnant with my bf and we are not even talking about marriage. We are both excited to have this baby and we plan to be together and raise it but whether or not we get married isnt a factor. You cant always plan your life and i wont get married just because of a baby. I cant stand people who do that either. Marriage because of a child, its childish and immature. I dont believe in that and i am so happy where i am in life and the fact i am going to be a mom and he is going to be the father. We care about eachother very deeply and who knows what the future holds for us, but this child isnt going to be a tool in determining it!What woman in he right mind would TRY to get pregnant with someone they are not married to?
there is women who actualy do that and i think it is very sad! if i was a guy and a women done that to me i would leave take her to court and justify myself not that the judge would care but i,m sure you know what i mean.hell me and my hubby were not married when i had my first son BUT we wanted our babies and were married now having our second,anywomen that does that needs to be FIXED i,m sorry but it is not right to trap a man for no reason
I actually have a child with a man that I am not married to, but we've been together for a while, and we're planning on trying for child number two soon. We do plan on getting married and have known each other for 12 years now, but we don't feel we have to be married to have children. Marriage doesn't ensure a man will stick around. I know of plenty of people who have kids with someone, and they're now divorced. It's all about finding a good man, not about being married. Just because you're not married doesn't mean you can't commit. Tyler and I are waiting so we can have the money for the wedding of our dreams (16 more months!). You have to look at the reason behind someone not being married, not just the fact that they aren't.
Well, i know that I do not believe in marriage. I am a mother of a 5 year old and i have a son who is due July 3rd. Some woman do believe they have found a man who wants to have a family, and then once the ';men'; find out they panic and run.





You must remember that it takes two to make a baby.





The father of the baby i am carrying I was with for years, and in the last few he decieded lets try to have a baby. BUT when we found out that we were having one, he paniced and ran. You can't blame a woman for this.





I hope you have found a man who stands by you, but don't judge those of us who are doing it on our own.
Some couples don't feel that a piece of paper and a marriage ceremony makes their love any stronger. I know a number of couples who are not married that have 2 - 4 children together, own several properties together and run successful businesses together. Some couples just don't believe that the marriage process is going to make their love for each other any stronger. I respect the couples that feel this way and so should you.
I have 4 children 4 mothers. Got married had a child. She left when I went to war as a soldier. Got a girl friend she got pregnant she left did not want me just the baby. I got custody! Got new girl friend she got pregnant left me. I got custody! Got married had another child. Some women do not want commitment. They want to steer their own course even when living with a man. 10 years with first wife,5years 1st girl friend,10 years second girl friend, Second wife still going strong. Some women do not want a man to marry. They love children or think they will be a good mom and don't need any man around to raise them. In my house the children come first. I don't know if it helps. Sometimes thou it is the women that will not commit.
Did it ever occur to you that some ppl dont believe in marriage and you dont know how long these ppl have been together either. I think you are being to critical of ppl to start with but that your choice. Then there are the ppl that make mistakes and dont use anything and get pregnant.


I see your point you should wait to have a kid until your married but if thats not a persons life style then who can say its wrong no one not even you.
Well I personally do not want to get married at this time so to be pregnant and not married is a personal choice. My baby was not ';planned';. My boyfriend has mentioned marriage on several occasions but that's just not me at this time. What I don't understand is why people think that a husband will NEVER leave just because he is a husband. Being a husband does not equal being a great father. So you ladies mean to tell me that a man never leaves his family because he is married? It's not 1902 and unrealistic.
This may be the MOST ridiculous question I have EVER seen on this board! What makes you think that all girls want to get married? Some girls, me for one DO NOT want to get married. There is no point! I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years. I can tell you that I love him and want to spend the rest of my life with him without having to have some stupid paper to confirm that. That little certificate that you seem to think is so important is not going to guarantee a ';happily ever after'; Have you looked at the statistics on divorce? Maybe you are one of the few that grew up with two parents that probably met in their teens and are still married and thats fine. I on the other hand was raised by my mother and my mother only! Children are not better off with a mother and father.... It doesnt matter as long as you can be there for your child emotionally, and financially then what else do you need? My boyfriend has been asking me to marry him since our 3rd anniversary.... and again I DO NOT want to get married! I am not desperate, I am not just settling, and we are committed. Baby or not we are absolutely in love with each other and getting married means nothing to me!
I know exactly what you mean! My husband had a girlfriend in high school who was so afraid to lose him that she took herself off the pill and purposely got pregnant. She told him this after 6 months of pregnancy. My husband being nice stuck around but of course...they ended up having another baby....then she cheated on him and she didn't tell him and she got pregnant by that guy and popped out ANOTHER baby and to this day swears it is my husbands even though neither side of the family has blonde hair OR blue eyes!!! My husband stuck around for 8 years with her but he just couldn't take it. After all the babies...he STILL didn't want to be with her! I was with him for 4 years before we got married and a year of marriage before I decided to get pregnant!
Well i think that some ppl do this for good reasons and well others definitely do not, they r desperate and probably insecure,they want any kind of affection and i think they do this because they try to trap a guy into something they can't get out of. There is not any kind of logical or rational thinking on either part of bringing a poor innocent baby into this cruel world for there own selfish needs.
Me and my fiancee are expecting our first in may 2nd. We are planning to get married though ( this summer ) and we have been living together for the last 5 years. I don't think you have to get married to have a baby, though it is best. A lot of unmarried couples make great parents and stick it together. In my opinion, depends on how strong is your relationship.


Marriage certificate is just a piece of paper.
Not all people feel they need to get married to be together and have a family. I mean look at the divorce rate. What does marriage even mean to people now a days? Sounds to me that,you'd rather someone just get married to save face,then to really think about what they're doing. Having a child with someone is not a good enough reason to marry them,only because of that.
there are alot of men out there who think the responsible thing to do is marry their baby mama. and unfortunately there are alot of women out there who try to take advantage of it.Its sad but true and your right .... WOMEN SHOULD NOT TRY TO GET PREGNANT TO KEEP A MAN! It is morally wrong! and unfair to the good men out there who want to be a good father to their kids.
Eh, the people in committed relationships that just don't believe in marriage for their own reasons, that I completely understand. But, as for the others, the ones that get pregnant on purpose thinking that will keep a guy around are just nuts. They just aren't in their right mind. :]
Great question! I wonder that everyday about some of these girls who think their b/f's will stick around after a baby. It's like the saying: Why buy the cow when the milk is free. Same for these girls: Why marry them when they get all the sex they want. Then they run when the girl gets pregnant! Ugh...that makes me angry!!
Well you do not have to be married to have a baby with the guy. If you are in love and you are happy and want a baby, there is nothing wrong with having a baby if you are not married.


It's the 21st century hunny.
thats messed up cause to be honest some men lie there way into a female and they get pregnant sometimes on purpose and most the time with PROTECTION! so i would watch how u put that.. okay? thank u!
Marriage is a piece of paper - love is a state of mind. What do you think is more important in your household?
I do know there are desperate women out there. I think they are just very immature and not thinking out the consequences of their actions...
I think its the best thing for a man and a woman to be married and be ready for a baby when they have one.
I personally think this is none of your business and you shouldn't be concerned about what other people do. Live and let live hunny
Some people can be in a committed relationship and feel they don't need a piece of paper to prove it.
because why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free right? some people dont take marriage seriously.which is stupid.
Look at Octomom. I think she is proof that most women are insane.