I'm an agnostic and my mom is Christian....
so I was in the car telling ym mom this studff I learned about continental drift and how the earth and the universe is constantly expadning and how crazy it is to think about how big (or infinite) the universe must be, etc, etc....and while I'm talking to my mom about this stuff, she cuts me off saying (and I quote), ';I don't care about that evolution crap. I believe in Jesus Christ';. first off, I wasn't even talking about evolution, I don't care for the evolution theory myself...second, I didn't realize how close-minded my mom was about that sort of stuff. I begin educating myself about the world and universe (all these thing science has discovered) and I tell her about it and she get irritated. come to think of it, even when I was raised believing in Christianity and I was taught those things in school, I ignored them and hated learning about it cus I was so damn close-minded myself, until a few months ago.
now I know not all Christians are this way, but it just shocks me that even someone like my mom would be so close-minded. I know she believes in Jesus with all her heart, but for her to totally dicount all other things just, i don't know...Are Christians REALLY this close-minded?
Hi, I tend to agree with you to a point, a lot of PEOPLE are very closed minded, but its not because they're Christian. I am a Christian, I believe in the Bible %26amp; Jesus %26amp; his ministry %26amp; I AM a Christian before I am anything else! %26amp; I LOVE science, I love learning about the earth %26amp; universe. I took several Geology %26amp; Geography courses in college %26amp; aced them all, my favorite was learning about the formation of the earth, the continental drifts, tectonic plates, etc... it's all so interesting. To me, it's actually a testament to creation, it's solid proof that there had to be a creator! How could the earth %26amp; life have come about by chance %26amp; evolution? That's such a ridiculous theory! The Bible is actually very scientific, despite people's claims about it being contradictory of science.
Any ways, back to your original question, NO Christians are NOT that close-minded, your mom perhaps may be, it sounds like she means well, though, don't be too down on her, but also please do not consider a group as large as ';Christians'; to be something like close minded, or unscientific, or against reasoning %26amp; common sense, just because one person shows these traits. I promise, all the Christians I know are both religiouss %26amp; scientific.
Don't be too frustrated with the other answerer's either, there's all kinds of people with all kinds of opinions. =o)Are Christians REALLY this close-minded?
If you want life, believe in Jesus. If you want to enjoy in the imaginations of the world of science, then believe everything they tell you. Eternal life goes to the follower of Jesus. Just what do you expect your reward will be for blindly accepting the theories and hypothesis of science.
Funny, I had a similar conversation with my mom just yesterday, and I thought she was open-minded too... You can tell because of the weird look she gets on her face whenever I say that I'm happy about evolution...
I know plenty of closed-minded Christians, but I'm a pretty open-minded, science-oriented one myself.
Yes, many are really that close minded. They create rifts between physical observation and their religion. They see it as having to pick between one and another. It's sad because such choices drive up scientific illiteracy in arguably one of the best countries in the world.
yes!!! some christians are SO close-minded! what those close-minded people dont realize is that god never said ';how'; he made everything so he could have put all of this stuff into place and watched it flourish! it's crazy how people can be molded to think sometimes! it really doesnt make any sense!
No, but a lot of them are.
My father is the same way. Just out of curiosity I read The God Delusion and he said, ';I can't wait until God blinds you for reading that';.
It's so sad. Why can't we all just accept each other?
Everybody has a right to express themselves about whatever they are learning or thinking, whatever they like or dislike, Maybe you should tell your mother that, in a respectful way, I am pretty sure she will understand.
She was probably forewarned about the ';evil'; in evolution. lol
Besides, evolution doesn't require belief, it's already a fact.
Uh huh. Everyone's so ';closed minded'; about hearing your ';science'; book lies.
Okay.
Oh yea... They are the most close minded %26amp; one track mind people I have never seen
Plus they are the most ignorant and illiterate people I have ever come across in my whole entire life
Don't worry just because she doesn't agree with you doesn't mean you are wrong in your belief. It is shocking when we start to realize our parents are fallible.
No. We are not.
Not all of them are. It is not smart of you to generalize.
Some are - yes. But not all.
Not all of them... just the insecure ones.
Sounds like she didn't know how to respond to your question.
I believe in God and Christ and was watching the History Channel yesterday about the Universe. Many galaxies, different scientific theories, expanding universe, etc.
This only increased my faith, rather than diminishing it. All the universe with such order and precision and predictability. Has to have some force that is keeping this order.
Science uses measured data to develop models to match the measured data and try to explain it. It tries to answer what is happening and how is it happening.
Religion tries to answer why are things happening.
Theories in science change over time as means are made available for different measurements. The truth stays the same, only our understanding changes.
There are also many different religions and from the perspective of truth, their beliefs are different and sometimes in opposition to each other, so it is not possible for both (or all) to be have all truth at the same time.
There is a law in thermodynamics that states that the entropy (amount of disorder) in the universe is increasing. Everything is moving towards more disorder and uselessness. If this law of science is true, then how can there be so much order in the universe? There must be an outside force counteracting the entropy.
Keep your faith. Make your quest for truth.
I am a Christian, one of Jehovah's Witnesses.
It does surely sound like she over reacted.
While I of course wasn't there, and am not her, maybe she felt you were somehow making fun of her or her beliefs.
I honestly get tired of the bigoted comments on Y!A about my being Christian meaning that I am against Science, Education, or simply Learning which is SOOOOOOO not true.
My father, an Avid SciFi fan, was also a Genius Electrician, who went on to being an Electrical Engineer, and Taught/helped Teach ALLOT of others to become Electrician's and EEs. Sadly he died in May of '07.
My mother once took a test on Spatial Awareness and scored Top in her class, Wrecking the curve for the class.:D
Both of them, who were/are Christian, Love/Loved learning, and passed that Love on to their 3 sons.
Of the 3 I am the only one who is Currently Christian, but I'd say, We all still have our love for learning.
Now this said, I in no way am defending how your mother acted. Hopefully, if she really was flying off the handle, she's come to realise it, and may in the future be able to explain why she reacted as she had, and/or at the least, appologise.
I know exactly what you mean.
I left religion nearly 30 years ago, while my mom stayed in it big time, and though I've had good relations with my mother all that time, we live in different states and I only see her once a year or so.
Last year she came for a visit. One of my passions is astrophotography (taking photographs of stars, galaxies, nebulae, etc.). I had just finished a nice 14-hour total exposure of the Andromeda galaxy, and had a big print of it on the table when she got there. She said, ';Ooh, that's beautiful, what is it?'; ';The Andromeda Galaxy,'; I tell her, ';one of our neighboring galaxies, about the same size as the Millky Way galaxy with around 100 billion stars, and only about 2.5 million light years away.'; She pauses for a moment and then asks, ';When you say 2.5 million light years away, what does that mean?'; I answer, ';It takes the light from this galaxy 2.5 million years to get from there to my camera. When the light I recorded in my shot left this galaxy, modern human beings hadn't even evolved yet.'; Again she's quiet for a moment...
';But that's impossible,'; she says. ';The earth is less than 10,000 years old. Somebody made a mistake.';
I was shocked, 'cause though I knew she was hardcore religious, I didn't know she was truly that ignorant.
Yes, somebody made a mistake alright...and it wasn't the thousands of people who've made very accurate distance measurements to the Andromeda galaxy...
Peace.
Christians are closed minded period. You can show them their wrong over and over and they just wont listen to you or anyone else. The truth is that Christianity is nothing more than a population control program implemented by those in power to prevent us from attaining true spiritual power and knowledge. If you want more information please visit www.exposingchristianity.com
christians are not freethinkers, atheist are.
Friday, August 20, 2010
Please read this. I am confused. Why do I feel this way?
I was rather close to this guy not long ago. He seemed sweet and quiet, I liked him and we starting sitting together in science. Anyway it progressed a bit more but then I suddenly went off him and dreaded seeing him.
I told him ';I finally know exactly what people mean when they say 'it's not you, it's me'.'; and he looked like he took it pretty well.
he started getting obsessive, telling me on MSN that he wanted to kill himself and everything. I started avoiding him all together because I didn't know how to handle it and he asked me why I had stopped talking to him. Which I really couldn't explain without him taking a gun to his head. I felt really sorry for him so one day I decided to sit by him and asked him for help on my science work. some people started saying ';Oh, Alice, why won't you go out with him?'; (they guessed that he liked me, he is quiet he wouldn't have said anything) and he replied with some really depressing crap about me not liking him even though he loves me (something like that -_-) anyway the conversation went cold and after a while he said ';..I might as well rape you, you won't let me have you any other way.'; I didn't absorb it at first, I just moved away from him in silence but later that night I sat and thought about what he said and realized that he threatened to rape me. (I was a bit slow, I think I was in shock.)
anyway some people found out about it and now everyone in my year hates him. They make fun of him around me and say ';he SHOULD kill himself! the world will be a better place.';
Listening to people when they talk about him and finding out about some of the horrible things he does (he is a champion shooter and he kills animals for fun, like cats and stuff. (even someone's HORSE because he didn't like them!)) I have really begun to hate him with a goddamn passion! but there's a part of me that still feels sorry for him, I don't know how I would feel if he really killed himself...
i go quiet whenever he's around and he intimidates me a lot even though he hasn't said a word to me since everyone found out about his threat.
Why do I feel this way about him?Please read this. I am confused. Why do I feel this way?
Oh I'm so sorry to hear this :(
I can somewhat imagine what you're going through. You were close to him for a while for a reason. There was something about him that you liked, apparently. You felt like that, and feelings about someone don't easily go away. You don't hate someone from one day on another, unless they did something terrible for you. But you feel like you've done something terrible to him, because you suddenly went off him. No matter what awful things he might've said later, you probably still feel a bit guilty about that and you can imagine how he feels. Empathy. That's why you feel that way about him. You're a human being. You hate him for the kind of person he is now, as threatening rape is... really awful and unimaginable. It definately does qualify him as a bastard. But at the same time, you did like him at first and you feel sorry for him as you can also imagine how he must've felt rejected by you.
Now, I can give you all these advices such as 'report him to the police!' and such, but.. there's no way of knowing what the right thing is to do unless you're you. I'm just gonna hope it works out for you :/Please read this. I am confused. Why do I feel this way?
You are still young
I told him ';I finally know exactly what people mean when they say 'it's not you, it's me'.'; and he looked like he took it pretty well.
he started getting obsessive, telling me on MSN that he wanted to kill himself and everything. I started avoiding him all together because I didn't know how to handle it and he asked me why I had stopped talking to him. Which I really couldn't explain without him taking a gun to his head. I felt really sorry for him so one day I decided to sit by him and asked him for help on my science work. some people started saying ';Oh, Alice, why won't you go out with him?'; (they guessed that he liked me, he is quiet he wouldn't have said anything) and he replied with some really depressing crap about me not liking him even though he loves me (something like that -_-) anyway the conversation went cold and after a while he said ';..I might as well rape you, you won't let me have you any other way.'; I didn't absorb it at first, I just moved away from him in silence but later that night I sat and thought about what he said and realized that he threatened to rape me. (I was a bit slow, I think I was in shock.)
anyway some people found out about it and now everyone in my year hates him. They make fun of him around me and say ';he SHOULD kill himself! the world will be a better place.';
Listening to people when they talk about him and finding out about some of the horrible things he does (he is a champion shooter and he kills animals for fun, like cats and stuff. (even someone's HORSE because he didn't like them!)) I have really begun to hate him with a goddamn passion! but there's a part of me that still feels sorry for him, I don't know how I would feel if he really killed himself...
i go quiet whenever he's around and he intimidates me a lot even though he hasn't said a word to me since everyone found out about his threat.
Why do I feel this way about him?Please read this. I am confused. Why do I feel this way?
Oh I'm so sorry to hear this :(
I can somewhat imagine what you're going through. You were close to him for a while for a reason. There was something about him that you liked, apparently. You felt like that, and feelings about someone don't easily go away. You don't hate someone from one day on another, unless they did something terrible for you. But you feel like you've done something terrible to him, because you suddenly went off him. No matter what awful things he might've said later, you probably still feel a bit guilty about that and you can imagine how he feels. Empathy. That's why you feel that way about him. You're a human being. You hate him for the kind of person he is now, as threatening rape is... really awful and unimaginable. It definately does qualify him as a bastard. But at the same time, you did like him at first and you feel sorry for him as you can also imagine how he must've felt rejected by you.
Now, I can give you all these advices such as 'report him to the police!' and such, but.. there's no way of knowing what the right thing is to do unless you're you. I'm just gonna hope it works out for you :/Please read this. I am confused. Why do I feel this way?
You are still young
I'm thinking about smoking weed...getting high with my friends... Should I do it?
Hi! I'm new here! I'm still struggling with this moral and ethical decision.
Do you think I should smoke weed? I mean, I've never done drugs before, smoked, or drank before. I'm a junior in high school and alot of my friends seem like they do it. They talk about it and it seems so fun. It doesn't even seem addictive. They say they aren't addicted. They describe how you can be so calm and chilled out on weed. They also tell adventures of when they were high and how they hotboxed and stuff.
I can just imagine blazing up, like I'm disappearing in a fire, never to be seen again until the high calms down. Sounds so cool. I would just blaze and blaze all day.
One of my buddies says he was high 65 percent of the time during the summer and how he had alot of cool times. Even someone who I thought was incorruptible and unafflictable by the weed plant blazes up every week! Wow. It seems like everyone I know has tried it or done it.
One of my pals who was a straight A student smokes weed EVERYDAY and is completely normal. Wtf?
I've heard so many things about marijuana that I don't know what is true. Some say it causes cancer, others say it doesn't. Some say it kills brain cells, yet great scientists have smoked the herb.
I also have seen those ';Above the Influence'; commercials. They're government attempts to stop the war on drugs.
Many great people have smoked the herb. EVEN THOMAS JEFFERSON SMOKED THE HERB!!
You know that all those tobacco plantations you heard about in history books? Well, a lot of those were marijuana plantations cultivated by the Washington Elite. I can only imagine George Washington and Thomas Jefferson toking up with the finest grass straight from the earth...
My friend has homegrown weed that he grows in his massive backyard.
He'll hook me up with some. If I smoke it.
I mean, it just seems so fun to do.
Has anyone smoked the plant before? Has anyone have any thoughts?
Thanks!I'm thinking about smoking weed...getting high with my friends... Should I do it?
The first thing is to do your research. Don't read government crap. Go try and find an non-biased source. I know thats hard to find so at least read both sides of the story and realize that neither is completely correct.
Second make sure its something you want to do. Weed is cool and all but you don't want it taking over your life. Never ever use it or anything to block out a bad situation. That's how addictions start. Don't feel pressured by your friends it needs to be your decision.
Third, everyone takes to things differently. In my experience weed is mentally addictive. Some people are more inclined to let if take over their life than others.
In my personal opinion you should always leave time between smoking. Don't smoke everyday for a month. You're not going to want to stop. Make sure you always do it in a safe place. It not only keeps you safe but makes it more enjoyable. Don't get in a car. Even if your friends say they can drive it ruins the high cause you are constantly looking out for cars. It sucks especially for the driver. So be courteous to you fellow stoners. Don't let anyone get behind the wheel. It's only fun if everyone is enjoying the high. Just be aware as well. If you find yourself smoking a lot take a break. It will only be better after a week or even a month off.
With that said it is definitely not good for you. I believe it is better for you the alcohol but seriously lesser of two evils. Anything that alters your mind isn't really good for you. My philosophy: moderation is key.
good luck,
peaceI'm thinking about smoking weed...getting high with my friends... Should I do it?
First of all smoking weed is awesome i know from experience. but i lost my GF and i am a lot dumber. I did the smart thing and went to rehab and my life is all good now.
haha dude **** these guys. if you wanna do it then do it. I dont do it, but im not aginst it in anyway, i think they should legalize it. but before you go get stoned, maybe you should get wasted. Dude your a Junior in Highschool. do it, have fun, its highschool man =] Im a freshman, but stiff
it will ruin your life so don't do it
NO!!!!!!!!!! IT WILL RUIN YOUR LIFE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
if you want to ruin your life and health, do it.
no dont do it,
it will rot your brain.
and decrease your brain function
never do it it will get you to no where and will make you feel suckish
Yeah. I've smoked it before. Actually, I've smoked it a lot. It has been a while but that is only because I don't have the extra money to buy any and I'm not currently hanging around anyone who does. I prefer the Indica to the Sativa. There are those who will say that it will cause a lack of motivation and all of that. Maybe. Depends upon what your relative definition of motivation is. Are you going to be able to do better at tasks which are fixed? Like math? Most likely not. Are you going to perform better at abstract tasks? You better believe it. Creativity. People are interesting because they only tend to judge things from their own experiences and perspectives. They like to think that everything is the same for everyone else as it is for themselves. Did you know that there have actually been some recent studies which suggest the opposite of killing brain cells? Of actually assisting in the growth o new cells? Should you do it? That's up to you. I like it. If someone handed me a joint, a blunt, or whatever right now, I'd hit it.
If you are smoking it only because your friends are doing it, then don't.
If you are genuinely curious, go ahead. But remember it is illegal. Also, you are still physically %26amp; biologically young. Your body is still developing. So limit any recreational drugs or alcohol. Also, do not smoke before or during school hours. Mental retention is shot to pieces when you're stoned, and ideally you will want to remember what you learn in school.
I smoked a lot when I was younger. I do not advocate smoking a lot, but if you can do it like social drinking, you will be ok. Needless to say, NO driving or any other physically risky behavior whether stoned or drinking.
Also, the weed that Washington or Jefferson might have smoked was much much weaker than today's grass. Since the late 60s, drug-dealing botanists have cross-bred various types of marijuana to produce some strains of VERY STRONG grass. Some of the more powerful modern versions will knock you for a loop after only one toke.
It is not physically addicting, but you can get emotionally addicted to anything.
So if you're going to do it, take it one step at a time. And at your age (again, biologically...) you shouldn't be high 65% of the time, or 50% or even 25%... enjoy within reason.
Uh, don't smoke weed because your friends do it. If you have any feelings of doubt and low confidence about it (like I think you do now), you should either wait or not do it. Honestly, you want to start smoking weed because it will give you stories to tell? Maybe you should think of ways that you can improve your life without drugs. If something is missing you should figure it out instead of attempting to fill it with drugs- that's the problem most of my friends have had. As far as the actual drug goes, it's not that bad for you, I'm just saying that there's more to it than what it does to your health. If this is about your self confidence and ';fitting in';, you need to rethink this.
Wow, you go ahead and try that, do something stupid, get caught by authorities, get thrown in jail and then see how cool it is to smoke the reefer. Its all the high school ideal. Don't get sucked into peer pressure, be smarter than that. But if you say all your friends do it, you probably don't have a chance and are already too far gone. So even if you do fight it off for a while, its still gonna come get you.
First let me say that I have smoked my share of weed when I was younger. I concluded that smoking weed accomplishes little or nothing. You are curious about this because your friends are doing it. Everyone wants to be accepted by others. That is human nature.
From my experience all smoking weed does is takes away all your motivation to do the things you should ( or could ) be doing. That includes homework, chasing girls, playing sports or video games, etc. There are many other ways of being calm and chilled out without wasting your time on weed. Good Luck.
I'm a sophomore in high school, and I smoke weed. There's nothing wrong with it unless you smoke it every single day and use it to help you with your problems. My friends and I smoke it because it makes you hallucinate and laugh and it's just funny to see people geek out. A lot of people think it's terrible until they actually do it, and then they realize how much fun it is. Just don't make it a part of your every day life. It won't hurt you to try it at all. :) It's fun.
Do you think I should smoke weed? I mean, I've never done drugs before, smoked, or drank before. I'm a junior in high school and alot of my friends seem like they do it. They talk about it and it seems so fun. It doesn't even seem addictive. They say they aren't addicted. They describe how you can be so calm and chilled out on weed. They also tell adventures of when they were high and how they hotboxed and stuff.
I can just imagine blazing up, like I'm disappearing in a fire, never to be seen again until the high calms down. Sounds so cool. I would just blaze and blaze all day.
One of my buddies says he was high 65 percent of the time during the summer and how he had alot of cool times. Even someone who I thought was incorruptible and unafflictable by the weed plant blazes up every week! Wow. It seems like everyone I know has tried it or done it.
One of my pals who was a straight A student smokes weed EVERYDAY and is completely normal. Wtf?
I've heard so many things about marijuana that I don't know what is true. Some say it causes cancer, others say it doesn't. Some say it kills brain cells, yet great scientists have smoked the herb.
I also have seen those ';Above the Influence'; commercials. They're government attempts to stop the war on drugs.
Many great people have smoked the herb. EVEN THOMAS JEFFERSON SMOKED THE HERB!!
You know that all those tobacco plantations you heard about in history books? Well, a lot of those were marijuana plantations cultivated by the Washington Elite. I can only imagine George Washington and Thomas Jefferson toking up with the finest grass straight from the earth...
My friend has homegrown weed that he grows in his massive backyard.
He'll hook me up with some. If I smoke it.
I mean, it just seems so fun to do.
Has anyone smoked the plant before? Has anyone have any thoughts?
Thanks!I'm thinking about smoking weed...getting high with my friends... Should I do it?
The first thing is to do your research. Don't read government crap. Go try and find an non-biased source. I know thats hard to find so at least read both sides of the story and realize that neither is completely correct.
Second make sure its something you want to do. Weed is cool and all but you don't want it taking over your life. Never ever use it or anything to block out a bad situation. That's how addictions start. Don't feel pressured by your friends it needs to be your decision.
Third, everyone takes to things differently. In my experience weed is mentally addictive. Some people are more inclined to let if take over their life than others.
In my personal opinion you should always leave time between smoking. Don't smoke everyday for a month. You're not going to want to stop. Make sure you always do it in a safe place. It not only keeps you safe but makes it more enjoyable. Don't get in a car. Even if your friends say they can drive it ruins the high cause you are constantly looking out for cars. It sucks especially for the driver. So be courteous to you fellow stoners. Don't let anyone get behind the wheel. It's only fun if everyone is enjoying the high. Just be aware as well. If you find yourself smoking a lot take a break. It will only be better after a week or even a month off.
With that said it is definitely not good for you. I believe it is better for you the alcohol but seriously lesser of two evils. Anything that alters your mind isn't really good for you. My philosophy: moderation is key.
good luck,
peaceI'm thinking about smoking weed...getting high with my friends... Should I do it?
First of all smoking weed is awesome i know from experience. but i lost my GF and i am a lot dumber. I did the smart thing and went to rehab and my life is all good now.
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haha dude **** these guys. if you wanna do it then do it. I dont do it, but im not aginst it in anyway, i think they should legalize it. but before you go get stoned, maybe you should get wasted. Dude your a Junior in Highschool. do it, have fun, its highschool man =] Im a freshman, but stiff
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it will ruin your life so don't do it
NO!!!!!!!!!! IT WILL RUIN YOUR LIFE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
if you want to ruin your life and health, do it.
no dont do it,
it will rot your brain.
and decrease your brain function
never do it it will get you to no where and will make you feel suckish
Yeah. I've smoked it before. Actually, I've smoked it a lot. It has been a while but that is only because I don't have the extra money to buy any and I'm not currently hanging around anyone who does. I prefer the Indica to the Sativa. There are those who will say that it will cause a lack of motivation and all of that. Maybe. Depends upon what your relative definition of motivation is. Are you going to be able to do better at tasks which are fixed? Like math? Most likely not. Are you going to perform better at abstract tasks? You better believe it. Creativity. People are interesting because they only tend to judge things from their own experiences and perspectives. They like to think that everything is the same for everyone else as it is for themselves. Did you know that there have actually been some recent studies which suggest the opposite of killing brain cells? Of actually assisting in the growth o new cells? Should you do it? That's up to you. I like it. If someone handed me a joint, a blunt, or whatever right now, I'd hit it.
If you are smoking it only because your friends are doing it, then don't.
If you are genuinely curious, go ahead. But remember it is illegal. Also, you are still physically %26amp; biologically young. Your body is still developing. So limit any recreational drugs or alcohol. Also, do not smoke before or during school hours. Mental retention is shot to pieces when you're stoned, and ideally you will want to remember what you learn in school.
I smoked a lot when I was younger. I do not advocate smoking a lot, but if you can do it like social drinking, you will be ok. Needless to say, NO driving or any other physically risky behavior whether stoned or drinking.
Also, the weed that Washington or Jefferson might have smoked was much much weaker than today's grass. Since the late 60s, drug-dealing botanists have cross-bred various types of marijuana to produce some strains of VERY STRONG grass. Some of the more powerful modern versions will knock you for a loop after only one toke.
It is not physically addicting, but you can get emotionally addicted to anything.
So if you're going to do it, take it one step at a time. And at your age (again, biologically...) you shouldn't be high 65% of the time, or 50% or even 25%... enjoy within reason.
Uh, don't smoke weed because your friends do it. If you have any feelings of doubt and low confidence about it (like I think you do now), you should either wait or not do it. Honestly, you want to start smoking weed because it will give you stories to tell? Maybe you should think of ways that you can improve your life without drugs. If something is missing you should figure it out instead of attempting to fill it with drugs- that's the problem most of my friends have had. As far as the actual drug goes, it's not that bad for you, I'm just saying that there's more to it than what it does to your health. If this is about your self confidence and ';fitting in';, you need to rethink this.
Wow, you go ahead and try that, do something stupid, get caught by authorities, get thrown in jail and then see how cool it is to smoke the reefer. Its all the high school ideal. Don't get sucked into peer pressure, be smarter than that. But if you say all your friends do it, you probably don't have a chance and are already too far gone. So even if you do fight it off for a while, its still gonna come get you.
First let me say that I have smoked my share of weed when I was younger. I concluded that smoking weed accomplishes little or nothing. You are curious about this because your friends are doing it. Everyone wants to be accepted by others. That is human nature.
From my experience all smoking weed does is takes away all your motivation to do the things you should ( or could ) be doing. That includes homework, chasing girls, playing sports or video games, etc. There are many other ways of being calm and chilled out without wasting your time on weed. Good Luck.
I'm a sophomore in high school, and I smoke weed. There's nothing wrong with it unless you smoke it every single day and use it to help you with your problems. My friends and I smoke it because it makes you hallucinate and laugh and it's just funny to see people geek out. A lot of people think it's terrible until they actually do it, and then they realize how much fun it is. Just don't make it a part of your every day life. It won't hurt you to try it at all. :) It's fun.
How could a parent even think of doing this to their child?
I have been working for a casino as a blackjack dealer for about 2 weeks now. Well this lady (about 40yrs old) came in and sat at my table, she had about 5000 dollars in chips, she lost it all within two hours, then she left and came back with 10,000 dollars, she lost 2k on rollette table, then 3k on the 5card poker table, then she came back to my table an lost the last 5k at my table. She had lost 15k in about 10hrs. Well the next day she came back and played at my table, she sold her car just so she could gamble again, so she had about 30k, she lost 15k of that at a different casino then she lost that last 15k at the casino i work at. Well she ran out of money at my table so i told her she'd have to let someone else take her seat if she didnt have any more chips, so she replied ';well i have 4 kids, i'll bet them, just let me keep playing';. I was shocked, i have never heard anyone offer that before, i was also quite disgusted.. I told her again she'd have to leave the table, and again she said she'll bet her kids. So i called security and well by the next day she ended up in jail because she tried to bet her kids again at another casino.
I found out this afternoon that the lady gambled ALL of her money in the bank and she put 3 morgages on her house and sold her car just to gamble and when she had nothing left she tried to offer her kids to gamble with. She has 4 kids and i found out they are 3yrs, 7yrs, 15yrs and 20yrs old.
And my question is: What do you think could cause someone to think like that? and How could someone even think like that?
I feel soo bad for these kids, i know the 20yr old, he is a nice boy, and because his father is serving in the military and wont be home for the next 11mo, and his mother is going to lose custody, he gets to raise his little siblings by his self.How could a parent even think of doing this to their child?
If this sounds insensitive, then my bad but..
1.She probably knew something terrible was going go happen and thought that she would just drop it all for the rush.
2.She thought that having kids would be night but in the end, it wasn't worth the memories and so might as well screw (pardon my language) them over in a life of debt to the banks and forcing the eldest to work miserably while his father have to find another way to support them and quit to military to be around more often.
3.She was hated her kids because of all the stress that she had been through since you said she was around 40yrs old.
4.She could've hated her husband and wanted to drop everything on him and wanted to drop everything on her family.
5.She has a serious gambling problem.
6.My last, she never felt the rush of things and thought it would be fun to gamble but never thought she would get addicted.
I don't think these would even come close to letting her off easily because in short, risking the well being of her family is just really cruel. To be honest, half those answers I given shouldn't be up there but i thought they should be something to consider anyways. I hope there would be someone who would be sympathetic and help her In debt family out but... that is some serious money problem...How could a parent even think of doing this to their child?
They have very bad poker and gambling problems. She might be addicted to it. I feel sorry for the kids though. No one should ever have to go through that. I hope it turns out well for them.
Actually, she probably didn't think. That's awful.
Obsessed. She was definitely addicted to gambling.
Pretty sure there was no thinking involved.
She probably has a mental illness, maybe she was manic or has severe gambling problems.
I feel sorry for her!
Gambling addiction is an illness. I'm sure you will see a lot of gambling addicts where you work.
It's sad, yes.
She is addicted to gambling was she gambling for a week straight damn
that lady is so greedy and dumb she probably has another problem that leads to the gambling
she has a gambling problem, has there been an episode of intervention in this yet
trust me she was not the mum.
damn idk that is a crazy story tho.
How could people do a lot of things to their kids.
Boggles my brain
she has a severe gambling problem.
its just like alcoholism or drug abuse. its an addiction.
often addicts behave that way because they will do absolutely anything to get their hands on whatever their choice of drug is.
in her case it was gambling.
i would try not to ponder on it for that much longer, hopefully she'll get help.
Hi it's sad to say but from what you seen with in this woman and then haven children the two littlest ones their the ones that's gone to pay the most .
Because this woman was so hooked in to gambleing it's not just her money she lost but her children are the ones she's gone to lose what a price these children has to pay.
What in the world was she thinking she should have learned when she lost the first two times.
I am really sorry about these children. It's a very hurtful and scarie thing their gone to be in unless a family member will step in and take care of these children.
I have a daughter shes 41 years old she was doing good for a while then she got in to drugs drinking she lost everything her grant from SSI. Food stamps a place to live all her children all but one older son but all her other little ones went in to a home.
one of the froster homes these children went in to they were together but some one raped one of my little granson no nothing became of it but it sure did mess up his little mind
i can't and couldn't take them i'm very sick myself
May God be with them children
even thoe their father is gone to be gone for 11-months they need to pull him out so he can help his children andhe can be dis-miss for his children These childrens life depends on their and i think its wrong if he isn't contacted on this..
well its really simple acually, see gambaling is addictive to some people, so basicly instead of this women speading everything she has on heroin she spent it all on the casinos. and she had no care in the world at the time for her kids because all she could care about was play blackjack or what ever else was at the casino. im sure now she is regreting it all though
That's awful. No one should have to live like that, or have her as a guardian. You should get in touch with the boy and offer him some money. I know that no one has anything in this economy, but set aside 10% of your income and start a change jar, and every so often you should invite them all over, get in touch with them and be friends. God Bless.
OMG. I can't believe someone would actually do this to their own kids. Maybe she was highly addicted to gambling. All I can say is whoever would gamble their kids away shouldn't be a parent. You did the right thing, calling security. It's hard to believe that people in this world would actually treat their kids this way. I feel sorry for her kids and wish them all the luck!
I found out this afternoon that the lady gambled ALL of her money in the bank and she put 3 morgages on her house and sold her car just to gamble and when she had nothing left she tried to offer her kids to gamble with. She has 4 kids and i found out they are 3yrs, 7yrs, 15yrs and 20yrs old.
And my question is: What do you think could cause someone to think like that? and How could someone even think like that?
I feel soo bad for these kids, i know the 20yr old, he is a nice boy, and because his father is serving in the military and wont be home for the next 11mo, and his mother is going to lose custody, he gets to raise his little siblings by his self.How could a parent even think of doing this to their child?
If this sounds insensitive, then my bad but..
1.She probably knew something terrible was going go happen and thought that she would just drop it all for the rush.
2.She thought that having kids would be night but in the end, it wasn't worth the memories and so might as well screw (pardon my language) them over in a life of debt to the banks and forcing the eldest to work miserably while his father have to find another way to support them and quit to military to be around more often.
3.She was hated her kids because of all the stress that she had been through since you said she was around 40yrs old.
4.She could've hated her husband and wanted to drop everything on him and wanted to drop everything on her family.
5.She has a serious gambling problem.
6.My last, she never felt the rush of things and thought it would be fun to gamble but never thought she would get addicted.
I don't think these would even come close to letting her off easily because in short, risking the well being of her family is just really cruel. To be honest, half those answers I given shouldn't be up there but i thought they should be something to consider anyways. I hope there would be someone who would be sympathetic and help her In debt family out but... that is some serious money problem...How could a parent even think of doing this to their child?
They have very bad poker and gambling problems. She might be addicted to it. I feel sorry for the kids though. No one should ever have to go through that. I hope it turns out well for them.
Actually, she probably didn't think. That's awful.
Obsessed. She was definitely addicted to gambling.
Pretty sure there was no thinking involved.
She probably has a mental illness, maybe she was manic or has severe gambling problems.
I feel sorry for her!
Gambling addiction is an illness. I'm sure you will see a lot of gambling addicts where you work.
It's sad, yes.
She is addicted to gambling was she gambling for a week straight damn
that lady is so greedy and dumb she probably has another problem that leads to the gambling
she has a gambling problem, has there been an episode of intervention in this yet
trust me she was not the mum.
damn idk that is a crazy story tho.
How could people do a lot of things to their kids.
Boggles my brain
she has a severe gambling problem.
its just like alcoholism or drug abuse. its an addiction.
often addicts behave that way because they will do absolutely anything to get their hands on whatever their choice of drug is.
in her case it was gambling.
i would try not to ponder on it for that much longer, hopefully she'll get help.
Hi it's sad to say but from what you seen with in this woman and then haven children the two littlest ones their the ones that's gone to pay the most .
Because this woman was so hooked in to gambleing it's not just her money she lost but her children are the ones she's gone to lose what a price these children has to pay.
What in the world was she thinking she should have learned when she lost the first two times.
I am really sorry about these children. It's a very hurtful and scarie thing their gone to be in unless a family member will step in and take care of these children.
I have a daughter shes 41 years old she was doing good for a while then she got in to drugs drinking she lost everything her grant from SSI. Food stamps a place to live all her children all but one older son but all her other little ones went in to a home.
one of the froster homes these children went in to they were together but some one raped one of my little granson no nothing became of it but it sure did mess up his little mind
i can't and couldn't take them i'm very sick myself
May God be with them children
even thoe their father is gone to be gone for 11-months they need to pull him out so he can help his children andhe can be dis-miss for his children These childrens life depends on their and i think its wrong if he isn't contacted on this..
well its really simple acually, see gambaling is addictive to some people, so basicly instead of this women speading everything she has on heroin she spent it all on the casinos. and she had no care in the world at the time for her kids because all she could care about was play blackjack or what ever else was at the casino. im sure now she is regreting it all though
That's awful. No one should have to live like that, or have her as a guardian. You should get in touch with the boy and offer him some money. I know that no one has anything in this economy, but set aside 10% of your income and start a change jar, and every so often you should invite them all over, get in touch with them and be friends. God Bless.
OMG. I can't believe someone would actually do this to their own kids. Maybe she was highly addicted to gambling. All I can say is whoever would gamble their kids away shouldn't be a parent. You did the right thing, calling security. It's hard to believe that people in this world would actually treat their kids this way. I feel sorry for her kids and wish them all the luck!
What's going on? Pleas help?
I was rather close to this guy not long ago. He seemed sweet and quiet, I liked him and we starting sitting together in science. Anyway it progressed a bit more but then I suddenly went off him and dreaded seeing him.
I told him ';I finally know exactly what people mean when they say 'it's not you, it's me'.'; and he looked like he took it pretty well.
he started getting obsessive, telling me on MSN that he wanted to kill himself and everything. I started avoiding him all together because I didn't know how to handle it and he asked me why I had stopped talking to him. Which I really couldn't explain without him taking a gun to his head. I felt really sorry for him so one day I decided to sit by him and asked him for help on my science work. some people started saying ';Oh, Alice, why won't you go out with him?'; (they guessed that he liked me, he is quiet he wouldn't have said anything) and he replied with some really depressing crap about me not liking him even though he loves me (something like that -_-) anyway the conversation went cold and after a while he said ';..I might as well rape you, you won't let me have you any other way.'; I didn't absorb it at first, I just moved away from him in silence but later that night I sat and thought about what he said and realized that he threatened to rape me. (I was a bit slow, I think I was in shock.)
anyway some people found out about it and now everyone in my year hates him. They make fun of him around me and say ';he SHOULD kill himself! the world will be a better place.';
Listening to people when they talk about him and finding out about some of the horrible things he does (he is a champion shooter and he kills animals for fun, like cats and stuff. (even someone's HORSE because he didn't like them!)) I have really begun to hate him with a goddamn passion! but there's a part of me that still feels sorry for him, I don't know how I would feel if he really killed himself...
i go quiet whenever he's around and he intimidates me a lot even though he hasn't said a word to me since everyone found out about his threat.
Why do I feel this way about him?What's going on? Pleas help?
You did a wonderful thing by not communicating with him. Please do not communicate with him. he could be dangerous. You already know that he is mentally unstable by the mere fact that he told you that he may kill himself. No one who says this type of thing is stable. I recommend he gets treatment. However you are not the one to tell him this. You are to stay away from him because its not your job to get him help or for you to help him. He needs professional treatment.
The best thing you can do is to allow him to just ';slide away'; into non-communication and silence. I believe whenever you know that he is going to be somewhere that you make sure that you are not there with him. He could be dangerous and you don't like him as you state, therefore you stay away from him and try to get him out of your mind as soon as possible. Out of sight is out of mind. Please do not communicate with him or be near him.
Good luck to you.
I told him ';I finally know exactly what people mean when they say 'it's not you, it's me'.'; and he looked like he took it pretty well.
he started getting obsessive, telling me on MSN that he wanted to kill himself and everything. I started avoiding him all together because I didn't know how to handle it and he asked me why I had stopped talking to him. Which I really couldn't explain without him taking a gun to his head. I felt really sorry for him so one day I decided to sit by him and asked him for help on my science work. some people started saying ';Oh, Alice, why won't you go out with him?'; (they guessed that he liked me, he is quiet he wouldn't have said anything) and he replied with some really depressing crap about me not liking him even though he loves me (something like that -_-) anyway the conversation went cold and after a while he said ';..I might as well rape you, you won't let me have you any other way.'; I didn't absorb it at first, I just moved away from him in silence but later that night I sat and thought about what he said and realized that he threatened to rape me. (I was a bit slow, I think I was in shock.)
anyway some people found out about it and now everyone in my year hates him. They make fun of him around me and say ';he SHOULD kill himself! the world will be a better place.';
Listening to people when they talk about him and finding out about some of the horrible things he does (he is a champion shooter and he kills animals for fun, like cats and stuff. (even someone's HORSE because he didn't like them!)) I have really begun to hate him with a goddamn passion! but there's a part of me that still feels sorry for him, I don't know how I would feel if he really killed himself...
i go quiet whenever he's around and he intimidates me a lot even though he hasn't said a word to me since everyone found out about his threat.
Why do I feel this way about him?What's going on? Pleas help?
You did a wonderful thing by not communicating with him. Please do not communicate with him. he could be dangerous. You already know that he is mentally unstable by the mere fact that he told you that he may kill himself. No one who says this type of thing is stable. I recommend he gets treatment. However you are not the one to tell him this. You are to stay away from him because its not your job to get him help or for you to help him. He needs professional treatment.
The best thing you can do is to allow him to just ';slide away'; into non-communication and silence. I believe whenever you know that he is going to be somewhere that you make sure that you are not there with him. He could be dangerous and you don't like him as you state, therefore you stay away from him and try to get him out of your mind as soon as possible. Out of sight is out of mind. Please do not communicate with him or be near him.
Good luck to you.
Do you like or dislike new jersey drivers?
* Turn signals will give away your next move. A real New Jersey driver never uses them.
* Under no circumstances should you leave a safe distance between you and the car in front of you,or the space will be filled in by somebody else putting you in an even more dangerous situation.
* Crossing two or more lanes in a single lane-change is considered going with the flow.
* The faster you drive through a red light, the smaller the chance you have of getting hit.
* Never, ever come to a complete stop at a stop sign. No one expects it and it will inevitably result in you being rear ended. If you want your insurance company to pay for a new rear bumper, come to a complete stop at all stop signs.
* A right lane construction closure is just a game to see how many people can cut in line by passing you on the right as you sit in the left lane waiting for the same jerks to squeeze their way back in before hitting the orange construction barrels.
* Never get in the way of an older car that needs extensive bodywork. New Jersey is a no-fault insurance state and the other guy doesn't have anything to lose.
* Braking is to be done as hard and late as possible to ensure that your ABS kicks in, giving a nice, relaxing foot massage as the brake pedal pulsates. For those of you without ABS, it's a chance to stretch your legs.
* Never pass on the left when you can pass on the right. It's a good way to scare people entering the highway.
* Speed limits are arbitrary figures, given only as suggestions and are apparently not enforceable in New Jersey during rush hour.
* Just because you're in the left lane and have no room to speed up or move over doesn't mean that a New Jersey driver flashing his high beams behind you doesn't think he can go faster in your spot.
* Please remember that there is no such thing as a shortcut during rush-hour traffic in New Jersey.
* Always slow down and rubberneck when you see an accident or even someone changing a tire.
* Learn to swerve abruptly. New Jersey is the home of high-speed slalom driving thanks to the State Highway Department, which puts potholes in key locations to test drivers' reflexes and keep them on their toes.
* It is traditional in New Jersey to honk your horn at cars that don't move the instant the light changes.
* Never take a green light at face value. Always look right and left before proceeding.
* Remember that the goal of every New Jersey driver is to get there first,by whatever means necessary.
* Real New Jersey women drivers can put on pantyhose and apply eye makeup at seventy-five miles per hour in bumper-to-bumper traffic.
* Real New Jersey men drivers can remove their girlfriend's panties and bra at seventy-five miles per hour or in bumper-to-bumper traffic.
* In the New Jersey area 'flipping someone the bird' is considered a polite New Jersey salute. This gesture should always be returned
*The only way to exit a highway or change lanes is the Jersey slide, To do so, slide across all lanes of the highway without pausing or using your blinker. Bonus points if you do it in traffic
i ****** love us!
and we piss Pennsylvania drivers off for the hell of it because they follow the speed limitDo you like or dislike new jersey drivers?
I was born and raised in NJ and I LOVE IT!! We have the best drivers. PA drivers are the worst! They all ride in the left lane and either go speed limit or just under. That lane is for passing!! Or at least speeding.Do you like or dislike new jersey drivers?
wow that is a long question but i have been to new jurse i live in NY and you gise drive better than us that is for shure
try driving in california if you cut someone off the other drivers will shoot
at you .
I've heard that people in general from NJ are arrogant.
Your post proves it.
Never been there.
im one and ill f*cking run you over if your a bad driver
uhh it dunt matter much, i aint goin to NJ
i %26lt;3 PA too much
haha that totally describes my dad, but were from PA
and its true, people here drive too effing slow!! hurry the eff up!! lol i have major road rage
lol what bonerific said was true. i drive in the left lane so i can get going, but all the frickin old geezers like to drive in the left lane %26gt;:Ocurly hair styles computer security
* Under no circumstances should you leave a safe distance between you and the car in front of you,or the space will be filled in by somebody else putting you in an even more dangerous situation.
* Crossing two or more lanes in a single lane-change is considered going with the flow.
* The faster you drive through a red light, the smaller the chance you have of getting hit.
* Never, ever come to a complete stop at a stop sign. No one expects it and it will inevitably result in you being rear ended. If you want your insurance company to pay for a new rear bumper, come to a complete stop at all stop signs.
* A right lane construction closure is just a game to see how many people can cut in line by passing you on the right as you sit in the left lane waiting for the same jerks to squeeze their way back in before hitting the orange construction barrels.
* Never get in the way of an older car that needs extensive bodywork. New Jersey is a no-fault insurance state and the other guy doesn't have anything to lose.
* Braking is to be done as hard and late as possible to ensure that your ABS kicks in, giving a nice, relaxing foot massage as the brake pedal pulsates. For those of you without ABS, it's a chance to stretch your legs.
* Never pass on the left when you can pass on the right. It's a good way to scare people entering the highway.
* Speed limits are arbitrary figures, given only as suggestions and are apparently not enforceable in New Jersey during rush hour.
* Just because you're in the left lane and have no room to speed up or move over doesn't mean that a New Jersey driver flashing his high beams behind you doesn't think he can go faster in your spot.
* Please remember that there is no such thing as a shortcut during rush-hour traffic in New Jersey.
* Always slow down and rubberneck when you see an accident or even someone changing a tire.
* Learn to swerve abruptly. New Jersey is the home of high-speed slalom driving thanks to the State Highway Department, which puts potholes in key locations to test drivers' reflexes and keep them on their toes.
* It is traditional in New Jersey to honk your horn at cars that don't move the instant the light changes.
* Never take a green light at face value. Always look right and left before proceeding.
* Remember that the goal of every New Jersey driver is to get there first,by whatever means necessary.
* Real New Jersey women drivers can put on pantyhose and apply eye makeup at seventy-five miles per hour in bumper-to-bumper traffic.
* Real New Jersey men drivers can remove their girlfriend's panties and bra at seventy-five miles per hour or in bumper-to-bumper traffic.
* In the New Jersey area 'flipping someone the bird' is considered a polite New Jersey salute. This gesture should always be returned
*The only way to exit a highway or change lanes is the Jersey slide, To do so, slide across all lanes of the highway without pausing or using your blinker. Bonus points if you do it in traffic
i ****** love us!
and we piss Pennsylvania drivers off for the hell of it because they follow the speed limitDo you like or dislike new jersey drivers?
I was born and raised in NJ and I LOVE IT!! We have the best drivers. PA drivers are the worst! They all ride in the left lane and either go speed limit or just under. That lane is for passing!! Or at least speeding.Do you like or dislike new jersey drivers?
wow that is a long question but i have been to new jurse i live in NY and you gise drive better than us that is for shure
try driving in california if you cut someone off the other drivers will shoot
at you .
I've heard that people in general from NJ are arrogant.
Your post proves it.
Never been there.
im one and ill f*cking run you over if your a bad driver
uhh it dunt matter much, i aint goin to NJ
i %26lt;3 PA too much
haha that totally describes my dad, but were from PA
and its true, people here drive too effing slow!! hurry the eff up!! lol i have major road rage
lol what bonerific said was true. i drive in the left lane so i can get going, but all the frickin old geezers like to drive in the left lane %26gt;:O
How do you turn things around when they're falling apart?
I was in an abusive relationship for what seems like forever and I finally have him out of my life and he's gone completely crazy and he was practically stalking me when I broke up with him and at the same time can't get over addictions and he's said and done the most horrible things to me.
Now I've lost a guy who I really care about. Someone who made me happier than I could have imagined. He broke up with me and the worst part is it's my fault. I dated an abusive guy for way too long and I let him mess me up to the point where I just couldn't have a good relationship with anyone. Even someone as special as the guy I was with. How do I get him back? And how do I get over the damage that the abusive relationship did to me? Even if it takes a while before I'm ready for a relationship I just don't want to lose him for good. I wish there could be some way that I could have a relationship with him when I'm ready for a relationship. How do I do this and how can I turn things around and raise my self-esteem?How do you turn things around when they're falling apart?
Get therapy. A professional can help you heal from the damage done by the abusive guy.How do you turn things around when they're falling apart?
To be honest, i think that your self esteem will raise without the abusive relationship :)
Now I've lost a guy who I really care about. Someone who made me happier than I could have imagined. He broke up with me and the worst part is it's my fault. I dated an abusive guy for way too long and I let him mess me up to the point where I just couldn't have a good relationship with anyone. Even someone as special as the guy I was with. How do I get him back? And how do I get over the damage that the abusive relationship did to me? Even if it takes a while before I'm ready for a relationship I just don't want to lose him for good. I wish there could be some way that I could have a relationship with him when I'm ready for a relationship. How do I do this and how can I turn things around and raise my self-esteem?How do you turn things around when they're falling apart?
Get therapy. A professional can help you heal from the damage done by the abusive guy.How do you turn things around when they're falling apart?
To be honest, i think that your self esteem will raise without the abusive relationship :)
Adopting children?
I am 21 years old, i have a fiance, who is in the marines and we plan to get married when he comes back from deployment..
i want to adopt, im not sure how many, never really even thought about a limit..
but does anyone know the best agencies to go through?
and what should i expect? and what is the best age for the child to be when adopting..
i also may want to have some children of my own but thats a different story lol, but in that case should i have children first then adopt or does it not really matter?
please do not tell me i am 21 years old and should not be adopting a child, im graduating college with my degree in Computer software engineering and computer science, 1 yr and a half early and going again back to complete my masters, so i am very well off money wise, this is my mind set and ive always wanted to do something like a orphnage type thing or refugee housing, along these lines.
so someone who has experience in this or even someone whos been adopted?Adopting children?
i'm adopted myself and am happy to talk to anyone about my experiences, I think it is a really healthy thing to consider adoption but please consider it carefully as it does bring with it it's own problems and should not be seen as thought you are 'rescuing' children and they will be gratefull (which is how the media often presents it). These chidlren will have complex emotional needs, which will need a particular understanding, yes even those who are adopted from birth. So it is important that you prepare and are ready to deal with any issues that may present themselves such as your child finding it hard to believe that you really love them and aren't going to leave them as well. that said i wish you every luck in the world and God bless xAdopting children?
have you considered going into the foster program? there are many many needy children, just needing loving people like yourself to take care and nurture them. And if you would rather adopt first that is just fine. Do what makes your heart smile, because if your heart is smiling, everyone around you will smile too.
i am so happy for u! you are in a great relationship and have a great lifestyle. whats holding you back! adopting is a great but long process, why dont u put ur name down 4 fostering. u are not 2 young because alots in my family have kids at a young age and are doin great go 4 it! sorry i dont know were u live so i dont now any agencies... good luck. best wishesxxx
Im sorry, I dont know of any agencies but I just wanted too tell you I think its great that you would love to adopt a child =] Good For You!!!
I gave birth to my two children in 1983 and 1984 always planning to adopt. I was a Young mom and knew I had a lot of life to parent....
We adopted our two siblings from foster care in 2003 when the older children were about to move on in their lives....
I personally see no difference in How I feel about my children but, do believe that for the sake of my biological children they deserved the chance to grow up a bit before children with special needs were added to our family....
I also believe that my adopted children deserved to feel special and not be compared to the older children or any impression of favoritisim shown to the bio children over the adopted children...
as it has turned out the bios are the ones who feel most cheated as we have much more to offer the little ones then I had as a Young mom starting out in life.....
i want to adopt, im not sure how many, never really even thought about a limit..
but does anyone know the best agencies to go through?
and what should i expect? and what is the best age for the child to be when adopting..
i also may want to have some children of my own but thats a different story lol, but in that case should i have children first then adopt or does it not really matter?
please do not tell me i am 21 years old and should not be adopting a child, im graduating college with my degree in Computer software engineering and computer science, 1 yr and a half early and going again back to complete my masters, so i am very well off money wise, this is my mind set and ive always wanted to do something like a orphnage type thing or refugee housing, along these lines.
so someone who has experience in this or even someone whos been adopted?Adopting children?
i'm adopted myself and am happy to talk to anyone about my experiences, I think it is a really healthy thing to consider adoption but please consider it carefully as it does bring with it it's own problems and should not be seen as thought you are 'rescuing' children and they will be gratefull (which is how the media often presents it). These chidlren will have complex emotional needs, which will need a particular understanding, yes even those who are adopted from birth. So it is important that you prepare and are ready to deal with any issues that may present themselves such as your child finding it hard to believe that you really love them and aren't going to leave them as well. that said i wish you every luck in the world and God bless xAdopting children?
have you considered going into the foster program? there are many many needy children, just needing loving people like yourself to take care and nurture them. And if you would rather adopt first that is just fine. Do what makes your heart smile, because if your heart is smiling, everyone around you will smile too.
i am so happy for u! you are in a great relationship and have a great lifestyle. whats holding you back! adopting is a great but long process, why dont u put ur name down 4 fostering. u are not 2 young because alots in my family have kids at a young age and are doin great go 4 it! sorry i dont know were u live so i dont now any agencies... good luck. best wishesxxx
Im sorry, I dont know of any agencies but I just wanted too tell you I think its great that you would love to adopt a child =] Good For You!!!
I gave birth to my two children in 1983 and 1984 always planning to adopt. I was a Young mom and knew I had a lot of life to parent....
We adopted our two siblings from foster care in 2003 when the older children were about to move on in their lives....
I personally see no difference in How I feel about my children but, do believe that for the sake of my biological children they deserved the chance to grow up a bit before children with special needs were added to our family....
I also believe that my adopted children deserved to feel special and not be compared to the older children or any impression of favoritisim shown to the bio children over the adopted children...
as it has turned out the bios are the ones who feel most cheated as we have much more to offer the little ones then I had as a Young mom starting out in life.....
I just don't understand why i'm a complete nothing in life?
I keep trying to figure out why my life is so bad. If even someone tells me it's because i'm stupid minded and keep making bad choices, how is that my fault if i'm too slow to make all the right choices? My life is the absolute pits. Maybe not the worst ever, because I don't know every single person in the world, but in my eyes it's the worst I know of. I've even seen people that were homeless or sick but still consider them to have a better situation than me because they may not have always been homeless or always been sick, or they maybe have friends, family, doctors, god, or something that helps them cope. I'm gonna be 30 this year and my life has always, always been down like this. I seriously wonder everyday how I made it to this advanced age in my condition. and why? why do good or happy people die everyday, but someone like me that wants to just die by getting killed or anything just keeps living. I have nothing going for me and what's worse is I have no hope. I have no desire to try anymore with anything, I don't want too try and I WONT because i've already missed out on too much and I will never stop thinking about those bad memories. I don't care if people think i'm a cry baby, I just wanna know if anyone knows why this has happened to me? I didn't ever intend to turn out like this, why did it happen?I just don't understand why i'm a complete nothing in life?
it seems you have alowed soceitys expectations of you to afefct you far too much
most of our lives can be called the pits, a majority of the time, if you look at it from teh same way you are
which is negativly
you are not focusing at all on anyuthing positive
firstly, you must deal with the depression you clearly have
secondly you also must deal with the lack of responsibility you appear to have
and thridly , you have to accept that we can not al be superstars and famous, or even nocitable or mor enoticable than the next person
this is real life, and for all of us, its basically the same
if you dont want to try, then you woudlnmt be on here talkign about it this way, in fact, you woudltn mention it
its happend to you because, its what happens, to all of us, and noramlly you have to eventualyl step up and deal with it, take responsibility, understand what your problems are, and why, and try to change them or accept themI just don't understand why i'm a complete nothing in life?
Probably cause you smell like soup, and you killed that old ladies cat when you were 7.
Sounds like you suffer from depression. Go talk to your doctor! It is treatable.
You again?
You are going to get nowhere at all in life if all you do is whine to us over the Internet.
You are something special, you are God's creation, created in his image, we all are. There is nothing wrong with you. God has a plan for you, even before you were born.
Pray to him, ask him and he will answer you, I promise. Your questions about good people dying and the other questions are all answered in the Bible.
The reason I believe that you won't die is because God is not ready for you. He has not completed his work with you. He wants you to pray to him, for answers and guidance. You will grow to become the Christian that you were created to be.
Wow, advanced age at 30, that makes me . . never mind!
I'm telling you right now that you are depressed. You need counseling and probably some medication. Get a psychological evaluation and a psychiatric referral from your doctor, and set yourself up with counseling. If you need to find a counselor in your area, you can call United Way for a referral, or even look one up on line.
And, hon, 30 is not ';advanced age.'; You need some help. Make the choice to get it for yourself -- you'll feel better about everything.
Good luck.
The answer is so blinding!
The biggest killer today in young people is suicide and at a time where materialism has replaced love and kindness.
It is the times we live in as scripture says at the end Love will grow cold, and believe me Humans can't live without love, it makes them miserable.
So what you need to do is go to the source of love which is God.
People have rejected God and we are now paying the price as we WILL serve a master and the world choose Satan.
Pray to God to forgive you and heal you, give yourself completely, don't worry about what your reason says, that means nothing to a repentant sinner who asks for mercy, God will give you the spirit to understand the things the blind can't see because they have a cancer called sin eating them up, go to God and ask no beg for forgiveness of all your sin and let him heal you.
My he bless you with his Holy Spirit.
You could call a Christian church near you and ask the pastor for some counseling; this should be free. I like the Baptist, Lutheran, and Calvary Chapel churches. God is real, for sure and you need to know Him to get the help you need. God is the Creator of the earth and us. God is all-knowing, all-powerful, eternal, holy, perfect, love. He loves us all and wants us to go to heaven to be with Him forever so he gave us His Son, Jesus Christ. Jesus died on the cross to cancel our sins, but we need to accept Jesus into our life as our Lord and Savior forever to receive God's help, God's blessing and forgiveness, plus go to heaven to be with God forever after we die. God will help you, if you ask Him to. That's what prayer is.
Call a church and they can pray for you too.
Well if you want to die like you said even if it means getting killed and you haven't, did you ever stop to think that maybe God needs to use you? Did that ever cross your mind? Life is what we make it. And life can be wonderful even when bad things happen to us. It's how we handle the bad things that either make us a happy person or a miserable person. Why don't you talk to God and see what it is that he wants to do through you. Stop fighting him and let him have his way with you, I'm sure that you will see your life change for the better. Try to look on the bright side of life. You may think that there is no bright side, but trust me, there is. Good Luck %26amp; God Bless You.
it seems you have alowed soceitys expectations of you to afefct you far too much
most of our lives can be called the pits, a majority of the time, if you look at it from teh same way you are
which is negativly
you are not focusing at all on anyuthing positive
firstly, you must deal with the depression you clearly have
secondly you also must deal with the lack of responsibility you appear to have
and thridly , you have to accept that we can not al be superstars and famous, or even nocitable or mor enoticable than the next person
this is real life, and for all of us, its basically the same
if you dont want to try, then you woudlnmt be on here talkign about it this way, in fact, you woudltn mention it
its happend to you because, its what happens, to all of us, and noramlly you have to eventualyl step up and deal with it, take responsibility, understand what your problems are, and why, and try to change them or accept themI just don't understand why i'm a complete nothing in life?
Probably cause you smell like soup, and you killed that old ladies cat when you were 7.
Sounds like you suffer from depression. Go talk to your doctor! It is treatable.
You again?
You are going to get nowhere at all in life if all you do is whine to us over the Internet.
You are something special, you are God's creation, created in his image, we all are. There is nothing wrong with you. God has a plan for you, even before you were born.
Pray to him, ask him and he will answer you, I promise. Your questions about good people dying and the other questions are all answered in the Bible.
The reason I believe that you won't die is because God is not ready for you. He has not completed his work with you. He wants you to pray to him, for answers and guidance. You will grow to become the Christian that you were created to be.
Wow, advanced age at 30, that makes me . . never mind!
I'm telling you right now that you are depressed. You need counseling and probably some medication. Get a psychological evaluation and a psychiatric referral from your doctor, and set yourself up with counseling. If you need to find a counselor in your area, you can call United Way for a referral, or even look one up on line.
And, hon, 30 is not ';advanced age.'; You need some help. Make the choice to get it for yourself -- you'll feel better about everything.
Good luck.
The answer is so blinding!
The biggest killer today in young people is suicide and at a time where materialism has replaced love and kindness.
It is the times we live in as scripture says at the end Love will grow cold, and believe me Humans can't live without love, it makes them miserable.
So what you need to do is go to the source of love which is God.
People have rejected God and we are now paying the price as we WILL serve a master and the world choose Satan.
Pray to God to forgive you and heal you, give yourself completely, don't worry about what your reason says, that means nothing to a repentant sinner who asks for mercy, God will give you the spirit to understand the things the blind can't see because they have a cancer called sin eating them up, go to God and ask no beg for forgiveness of all your sin and let him heal you.
My he bless you with his Holy Spirit.
You could call a Christian church near you and ask the pastor for some counseling; this should be free. I like the Baptist, Lutheran, and Calvary Chapel churches. God is real, for sure and you need to know Him to get the help you need. God is the Creator of the earth and us. God is all-knowing, all-powerful, eternal, holy, perfect, love. He loves us all and wants us to go to heaven to be with Him forever so he gave us His Son, Jesus Christ. Jesus died on the cross to cancel our sins, but we need to accept Jesus into our life as our Lord and Savior forever to receive God's help, God's blessing and forgiveness, plus go to heaven to be with God forever after we die. God will help you, if you ask Him to. That's what prayer is.
Call a church and they can pray for you too.
Well if you want to die like you said even if it means getting killed and you haven't, did you ever stop to think that maybe God needs to use you? Did that ever cross your mind? Life is what we make it. And life can be wonderful even when bad things happen to us. It's how we handle the bad things that either make us a happy person or a miserable person. Why don't you talk to God and see what it is that he wants to do through you. Stop fighting him and let him have his way with you, I'm sure that you will see your life change for the better. Try to look on the bright side of life. You may think that there is no bright side, but trust me, there is. Good Luck %26amp; God Bless You.
How to overcome anger?
I'm 21 and have not had the best year so far, my best friend committed suicide and my girlfriend split up with me. I went through a stage of just feeling sorry for myself which I'm beginning to leave which is a good thing but I feel really angry at times. The slightest little memory of someone 'wronging' me or even someone talking down to me ie my dad or brother, can just set me off. I recently attacked one of my close friends because he wouldn't be quiet when everyone was trying to sleep (we were in a hostel in amsterdam). I have even tried to take deep breaths and count but that never seems to work. I've not got an anger problem, I've just got some issues. Can anyone give some advice on how to control this. I find it very hard to look the other way and take the moral highground which I know is the right way but I'm far too stubbornHow to overcome anger?
I remember going through that in life too, I went out and fought every battle and I had to win each one or I wasn't a man. But that is so damn draining on a person, isn't it? I finally had some classes where the one thing I learned was to pick my battles, pick the ones I need in order to win the war. Fighting all the small ones might mean you win them but you can still lose the war. So now I sit back and I can even laugh at those who come at me with something they say is true and want to pass it off as truth. It doesn't bother me. Why do I want to let my feelings dictate I how I react? I don't need to win all the battles any more, I pick the few that are going to really affect me and I stand for them, for now when I stand for those beliefs others take notice because they don't see me as just talking smack any more, they see I have a point that has meaning.How to overcome anger?
I too had anger issues because of bad things that happened to me, but just remember that your lucky to be alive, and killing yourself and hurting others would just make it worse that it wont help you nor anyone else. If your catholic or whatever try to confess your sins to a priest or someone you could, and try to tell your problems to other people not just your family. A good stress reliever would always help though.
don't think about your problem 2 much %26amp; don't keep it 2 yourself, it will be helpful if u tell it 2 your close friend or your family about your problems, it is the way 2 lessen your anger/depression. Be closer 2 God %26amp; ask guidance from Him. Read books about life. move on! life must go on. In this world u have 2 b strong 2 survive.
Hi friend,
Maybe you can try this ...
- Think about the current pig flu in Mexico where people are suffering
- Think about those people who are currently over 40 and lost their job due to economic crisis
- Think about those children who lost their parent during the China Si-Chuan earth quake
And if you cannot sleep at night, just stare at the sky for 10 minute thinking about all these
Your friend commited suicide. It sounds like you may be experiencing one of the five stages of death. Those stages are 1. Denial-';This can't be really happening';. 2. Anger-';I'm ticked off at the world';. 3. Bargaining- ';Maybe I can figure out a way to deal with this'; 4. Depression-';I am tired of trying to deal with this';. 5. Acceptance-';Okay this happened, it was bad, butI am moving on';. Most people may fluctuate through these stages until finally reaching the final stage of acceptance. It will just take some time, but you can and likely will get through this. I just thought it might help you if you could kinda look at yourself and recognize the stages that you are going through in dealing with the suicide and with the loss of your girlfriend.Many people going through divorce go through these same stages.
I remember going through that in life too, I went out and fought every battle and I had to win each one or I wasn't a man. But that is so damn draining on a person, isn't it? I finally had some classes where the one thing I learned was to pick my battles, pick the ones I need in order to win the war. Fighting all the small ones might mean you win them but you can still lose the war. So now I sit back and I can even laugh at those who come at me with something they say is true and want to pass it off as truth. It doesn't bother me. Why do I want to let my feelings dictate I how I react? I don't need to win all the battles any more, I pick the few that are going to really affect me and I stand for them, for now when I stand for those beliefs others take notice because they don't see me as just talking smack any more, they see I have a point that has meaning.How to overcome anger?
I too had anger issues because of bad things that happened to me, but just remember that your lucky to be alive, and killing yourself and hurting others would just make it worse that it wont help you nor anyone else. If your catholic or whatever try to confess your sins to a priest or someone you could, and try to tell your problems to other people not just your family. A good stress reliever would always help though.
don't think about your problem 2 much %26amp; don't keep it 2 yourself, it will be helpful if u tell it 2 your close friend or your family about your problems, it is the way 2 lessen your anger/depression. Be closer 2 God %26amp; ask guidance from Him. Read books about life. move on! life must go on. In this world u have 2 b strong 2 survive.
Hi friend,
Maybe you can try this ...
- Think about the current pig flu in Mexico where people are suffering
- Think about those people who are currently over 40 and lost their job due to economic crisis
- Think about those children who lost their parent during the China Si-Chuan earth quake
And if you cannot sleep at night, just stare at the sky for 10 minute thinking about all these
Your friend commited suicide. It sounds like you may be experiencing one of the five stages of death. Those stages are 1. Denial-';This can't be really happening';. 2. Anger-';I'm ticked off at the world';. 3. Bargaining- ';Maybe I can figure out a way to deal with this'; 4. Depression-';I am tired of trying to deal with this';. 5. Acceptance-';Okay this happened, it was bad, butI am moving on';. Most people may fluctuate through these stages until finally reaching the final stage of acceptance. It will just take some time, but you can and likely will get through this. I just thought it might help you if you could kinda look at yourself and recognize the stages that you are going through in dealing with the suicide and with the loss of your girlfriend.Many people going through divorce go through these same stages.
I want him back so bad!?
ok the story is as goes:
last week on thursday i split up with my boyfriend after being together for just over a year. we were in a very happy relationship actually although iv got some serious paranoia, doubt and the other negative stuff you sometimes feel as well as a few reasons for not being so happy.
this happened because:- my friend A took me to see my friend T, who i had not seen in a very long time %26amp;we did not really know each other too well. i got to know him a bit %26amp; thought he was absolutely awesome! my friend A said it was really cool %26amp; cute.
it was a conversation me %26amp; T had on msn the next night %26amp; i found out he had over a year long crush on me. me being me - i was extremely flattered %26amp; aaawwww about it. i told A the next day what T had said. she said it was really sweet %26amp; started pointing out all the things we had in common %26amp; how awesome we were together.
i hung around with T again on the weekend but this time we were by ourselves. i found out a lot more about him %26amp; we had so much in common. later on when we were round his watching a naruto dvd and we ended up kissing. i felt bad because i had not been loyal to my boyfriend(R) but it felt right for some reason. i went home after having dinner there as well and felt strangely happy knowing i shouldn't be.
the next day i told A what had happened %26amp; she had an 'oh...' but 'wow' reaction. more of a wow one. she started saying stuff like 'it would be do cute if you 2 ever got together'. i can get lead on quite easily %26amp; i like to please people. my boyfriend always seemed quite cold to A so i guess she wasn't really on his side. it didn't help that i had other friends coming up to me thinking that R hates them. my friends mean the world to me %26amp; my boyfriend making them feel like he hates them angered me a bit. that along with what A %26amp; T were saying along with all the stupid little arguments me%26amp; R were having over everything made me feel like i could be happier with someone else, maybe even someone like T.
i felt quite angry with R at this moment %26amp; thinking that i could be happier made me consider a break up.
i had been hanging round with A %26amp; T more %26amp; hadn't really spoken to R much after feeling this.
i hung round with A %26amp; T on wednesday %26amp; told R i would go round his for a bit as well. i didn't end up going round his instead i had to go home for dinner %26amp; R text me %26amp; said he would come round because he now had work at 9. when he came round i didn't feel quite right %26amp; didn't kiss him even though i wanted to.
th next day, thursday, while i was at school i emailed him asking if he wanted to go into town %26amp; that we needed a talk.
we got to the talk later that day i i just said that i didn't think i was entirely happy. told him about the friends things, that i wanted to try new things, the arguments %26amp; a couple other little things. he asked if i wanted to carry the relationship on %26amp; i slowly shock my head %26amp; cried. we both agreed %26amp; said we should stay in close contact. i thought everything would be fine.
i told A %26amp; T how the talk went (as they knew about it) %26amp; what had happened.
i saw T the next day %26amp; we started kissing again and i felt fine, i felt happy. the next day i wasn't so happy %26amp; so on until now where i feel something near suicidal.
yesterday i met up with R %26amp; we had a chat %26amp; he said what he said on msn on monday: i dont want to be with you right now.
now im really trying hard just to get him back but he keeps saying the same things over %26amp; over almost like hes trying to convince himself he doesnt love me any more. i love him more then ever now after being apart from him
im writing this on my wii so my spelling %26amp; grammar is probably bad.
for more information to go by i will add a couple of the emails i sent him %26amp; a bit from my diary. this is when i can actually get on a computer. il do it as soon as i can.
if you can try help me out now id be gratefulI want him back so bad!?
it seems like youre telling him how much you want him back and how much you really love him.
if you really want to get him back then do the complete opposite.
when you give guys too much attention and love they seem to take it forgranted. leave him alone for a while and see how it turns out....if he's still acting like that then my advice is to move on. there's other fishes in the seaI want him back so bad!?
wow....If you want to be with him, get with him
From ur story i feels that u were totally wrong, and i feel R is right to do this.
But dont feel sad, now give ur attention only to ur R.
Yaar never think that he is not good for u. sab ko chodo , chahe woh T ho, ya A ho.
Vaise u really hurted R, that was only he , who was having right over u.
just wait, and remind R that u love him and love her the wole life/
last week on thursday i split up with my boyfriend after being together for just over a year. we were in a very happy relationship actually although iv got some serious paranoia, doubt and the other negative stuff you sometimes feel as well as a few reasons for not being so happy.
this happened because:- my friend A took me to see my friend T, who i had not seen in a very long time %26amp;we did not really know each other too well. i got to know him a bit %26amp; thought he was absolutely awesome! my friend A said it was really cool %26amp; cute.
it was a conversation me %26amp; T had on msn the next night %26amp; i found out he had over a year long crush on me. me being me - i was extremely flattered %26amp; aaawwww about it. i told A the next day what T had said. she said it was really sweet %26amp; started pointing out all the things we had in common %26amp; how awesome we were together.
i hung around with T again on the weekend but this time we were by ourselves. i found out a lot more about him %26amp; we had so much in common. later on when we were round his watching a naruto dvd and we ended up kissing. i felt bad because i had not been loyal to my boyfriend(R) but it felt right for some reason. i went home after having dinner there as well and felt strangely happy knowing i shouldn't be.
the next day i told A what had happened %26amp; she had an 'oh...' but 'wow' reaction. more of a wow one. she started saying stuff like 'it would be do cute if you 2 ever got together'. i can get lead on quite easily %26amp; i like to please people. my boyfriend always seemed quite cold to A so i guess she wasn't really on his side. it didn't help that i had other friends coming up to me thinking that R hates them. my friends mean the world to me %26amp; my boyfriend making them feel like he hates them angered me a bit. that along with what A %26amp; T were saying along with all the stupid little arguments me%26amp; R were having over everything made me feel like i could be happier with someone else, maybe even someone like T.
i felt quite angry with R at this moment %26amp; thinking that i could be happier made me consider a break up.
i had been hanging round with A %26amp; T more %26amp; hadn't really spoken to R much after feeling this.
i hung round with A %26amp; T on wednesday %26amp; told R i would go round his for a bit as well. i didn't end up going round his instead i had to go home for dinner %26amp; R text me %26amp; said he would come round because he now had work at 9. when he came round i didn't feel quite right %26amp; didn't kiss him even though i wanted to.
th next day, thursday, while i was at school i emailed him asking if he wanted to go into town %26amp; that we needed a talk.
we got to the talk later that day i i just said that i didn't think i was entirely happy. told him about the friends things, that i wanted to try new things, the arguments %26amp; a couple other little things. he asked if i wanted to carry the relationship on %26amp; i slowly shock my head %26amp; cried. we both agreed %26amp; said we should stay in close contact. i thought everything would be fine.
i told A %26amp; T how the talk went (as they knew about it) %26amp; what had happened.
i saw T the next day %26amp; we started kissing again and i felt fine, i felt happy. the next day i wasn't so happy %26amp; so on until now where i feel something near suicidal.
yesterday i met up with R %26amp; we had a chat %26amp; he said what he said on msn on monday: i dont want to be with you right now.
now im really trying hard just to get him back but he keeps saying the same things over %26amp; over almost like hes trying to convince himself he doesnt love me any more. i love him more then ever now after being apart from him
im writing this on my wii so my spelling %26amp; grammar is probably bad.
for more information to go by i will add a couple of the emails i sent him %26amp; a bit from my diary. this is when i can actually get on a computer. il do it as soon as i can.
if you can try help me out now id be gratefulI want him back so bad!?
it seems like youre telling him how much you want him back and how much you really love him.
if you really want to get him back then do the complete opposite.
when you give guys too much attention and love they seem to take it forgranted. leave him alone for a while and see how it turns out....if he's still acting like that then my advice is to move on. there's other fishes in the seaI want him back so bad!?
wow....If you want to be with him, get with him
From ur story i feels that u were totally wrong, and i feel R is right to do this.
But dont feel sad, now give ur attention only to ur R.
Yaar never think that he is not good for u. sab ko chodo , chahe woh T ho, ya A ho.
Vaise u really hurted R, that was only he , who was having right over u.
just wait, and remind R that u love him and love her the wole life/
Help me in this...I've never had a girlfriend?
ok...All of my friends have had girlfriends except me =S
I dunno y...i think in a better way than all of them and know how to deal with everybody...I'm a bit shy but when I try to get rid of my shyness i get in a problem and I become the center of it and every bad thing comes on me...
I've been dreaming of someone to understand me...to understand the way I think...or even someone to care about me (a girl)...about 12 new girls came to my class...but I'm in the IGCSE class and their not =S...I study a lot and I don't have much time to deal or even talk to them =S...And I find it a bit difficult to know these girls the way I know the ones that were in my class for years =S...Please help me =) =S
2 days ago - 1 day left to answer.Help me in this...I've never had a girlfriend?
how about you talk to them? ask them their names, and if they want to be shown around the school.
you seem like a sweet guy.
and theres not many left of those..Help me in this...I've never had a girlfriend?
lol so what's the question.
you want to know how to get a girlfriend??? lol i don't know! just be nice and whatever, it's kind of just be chance. or then everybody would be taken.
Be more outgoing. Talk to the some girls.
I was gonna say, eh, you asked this question like 2 days ago hun.
lol! u really love the =S thing!!!!!! roflmao! u did it 5 times!!curly hair styles computer security
I dunno y...i think in a better way than all of them and know how to deal with everybody...I'm a bit shy but when I try to get rid of my shyness i get in a problem and I become the center of it and every bad thing comes on me...
I've been dreaming of someone to understand me...to understand the way I think...or even someone to care about me (a girl)...about 12 new girls came to my class...but I'm in the IGCSE class and their not =S...I study a lot and I don't have much time to deal or even talk to them =S...And I find it a bit difficult to know these girls the way I know the ones that were in my class for years =S...Please help me =) =S
2 days ago - 1 day left to answer.Help me in this...I've never had a girlfriend?
how about you talk to them? ask them their names, and if they want to be shown around the school.
you seem like a sweet guy.
and theres not many left of those..Help me in this...I've never had a girlfriend?
lol so what's the question.
you want to know how to get a girlfriend??? lol i don't know! just be nice and whatever, it's kind of just be chance. or then everybody would be taken.
Be more outgoing. Talk to the some girls.
I was gonna say, eh, you asked this question like 2 days ago hun.
lol! u really love the =S thing!!!!!! roflmao! u did it 5 times!!
A fear of calling people...?
I have this fear of phoning people, it's weird, but I can't pick up the phone and call someone I don't know, even someone I do know.. it drives me insane, I don't know what they are going to say, I don't know what I should say. What if the person asks a question i don't know the answer to... then I'm just an idiot on the other end of the line, What if they don't understand what I'm asking? It all scares me badly. I sit there planning out what I'm going to say before I decided to dial the number, but even then my heart pounds and I usually just hang up after the first ring.
I'm 17, my parents won't make phone calls for me anymore, and I'm stuck. I resort to emails to help register for university, but they won't answer so I have to drive there and ask in person, just because I couldn't phone.. I can't phone for pizza, because I usually can't understand the people who answer (no offence) and If the phone rings and I don't know the number, I don't want to pick up, because it could be telemarketers and I can't deal with them, I just hang up without saying anything, and I feel terrible.... HELP I need to get over this or I won't be able to do things like follow up on job opportunities... I need to get over this, but I can't :o(
Does anyone else have this problem??
Does anyone know how I can fix this?A fear of calling people...?
It has a name! Check this link!
http://www.sufferingfromanxiety.com/gene鈥?/a>
It's a type of social phobia.A fear of calling people...?
think of it this way the people on the other end of the phone cant hurt you. Im sure you have had phone conversations before you might be nervous at the beginning but at the end you probably have calmed down. its not that bad just practice at calling people. you will get better at it in time
I have a fear of calling people as well. It is not as extreme as your case though. I just hate/ fear calling people because they might not want to talk to me or will think I am clingy for calling or something. But my heart races and I panic.
I am serious. I am not making fun of you.
If you can take a course and build on your abilities. You can succeed.
Yes, I had that problem! I still dislike talking on the phone. I just don't like hearing someone and not being able to see their face. But there's really not much you can do to avoid it. I just kept calling people until I got used to it.
Here's a tip, if there's an awkward pause fumble the phone a bit, then say ';still there? I dropped the phone, haha';. Then the other person will laugh and you can say ';what were we saying?'; The other person will pick up the conversation and you'll have had a few moments to think about what to say.
Well, have a close friend dial the number and make you talk. Hopefully the person you call knows you, and your fear. Most of the time you are shy or nervous. so anyways, have someone dial for you, and then try to talk to them. Pretend that you are talking to them in person. Try holding up a picture of them and pretend that the voice coming out of the phone is actually from the photo. I hope this helps. Sometimes, there are even settings on your phone where they don't let you hang up. You could look more closely into that. Hope it helps!
I used to have this as bad as you do. Probably worse.
You just have to stick with whatever emotions come up during and after the call without focusing on your thoughts so much. You still can think but just try to control yourself in a soft way and your emotions will eventually run their course. You have to believe in this method though or else you probably won't stick with the agony. It works, I promise. Do the same method with whatever other social phobias you have too.
It's safer to start small because if you try to stick with powerful emotions you aren't ready for yet you might disacociate and make yourself worse.
Be one with the disease, that is the way to rid yourself of it. Self-acceptance is key.
I'm 17, my parents won't make phone calls for me anymore, and I'm stuck. I resort to emails to help register for university, but they won't answer so I have to drive there and ask in person, just because I couldn't phone.. I can't phone for pizza, because I usually can't understand the people who answer (no offence) and If the phone rings and I don't know the number, I don't want to pick up, because it could be telemarketers and I can't deal with them, I just hang up without saying anything, and I feel terrible.... HELP I need to get over this or I won't be able to do things like follow up on job opportunities... I need to get over this, but I can't :o(
Does anyone else have this problem??
Does anyone know how I can fix this?A fear of calling people...?
It has a name! Check this link!
http://www.sufferingfromanxiety.com/gene鈥?/a>
It's a type of social phobia.A fear of calling people...?
think of it this way the people on the other end of the phone cant hurt you. Im sure you have had phone conversations before you might be nervous at the beginning but at the end you probably have calmed down. its not that bad just practice at calling people. you will get better at it in time
I have a fear of calling people as well. It is not as extreme as your case though. I just hate/ fear calling people because they might not want to talk to me or will think I am clingy for calling or something. But my heart races and I panic.
I am serious. I am not making fun of you.
If you can take a course and build on your abilities. You can succeed.
Yes, I had that problem! I still dislike talking on the phone. I just don't like hearing someone and not being able to see their face. But there's really not much you can do to avoid it. I just kept calling people until I got used to it.
Here's a tip, if there's an awkward pause fumble the phone a bit, then say ';still there? I dropped the phone, haha';. Then the other person will laugh and you can say ';what were we saying?'; The other person will pick up the conversation and you'll have had a few moments to think about what to say.
Well, have a close friend dial the number and make you talk. Hopefully the person you call knows you, and your fear. Most of the time you are shy or nervous. so anyways, have someone dial for you, and then try to talk to them. Pretend that you are talking to them in person. Try holding up a picture of them and pretend that the voice coming out of the phone is actually from the photo. I hope this helps. Sometimes, there are even settings on your phone where they don't let you hang up. You could look more closely into that. Hope it helps!
I used to have this as bad as you do. Probably worse.
You just have to stick with whatever emotions come up during and after the call without focusing on your thoughts so much. You still can think but just try to control yourself in a soft way and your emotions will eventually run their course. You have to believe in this method though or else you probably won't stick with the agony. It works, I promise. Do the same method with whatever other social phobias you have too.
It's safer to start small because if you try to stick with powerful emotions you aren't ready for yet you might disacociate and make yourself worse.
Be one with the disease, that is the way to rid yourself of it. Self-acceptance is key.
How do you turn things around when they're falling apart?
I was in an abusive relationship for what seems like forever and I finally have him out of my life and he's gone completely crazy and he was practically stalking me when I broke up with him and at the same time can't get over addictions and he's said and done the most horrible things to me.
Now I've lost a guy who I really care about. Someone who made me happier than I could have imagined. He broke up with me and the worst part is it's my fault. I dated an abusive guy for way too long and I let him mess me up to the point where I just couldn't have a good relationship with anyone. Even someone as special as the guy I was with. How do I get him back? And how do I get over the damage that the abusive relationship did to me? Even if it takes a while before I'm ready for a relationship I just don't want to lose him for good. I wish there could be some way that I could have a relationship with him when I'm ready for a relationship. How do I do this and how can I turn things around and raise my self-esteem?How do you turn things around when they're falling apart?
you need to work on your self esteem first. relationships should be the cherry on top of your life. They should be something that add to your life. This goes for both men and women. They shouldn't be the sole focus of your life, that will never work out. You can't go to someone else to make you happy if you can't be happy by yourself.
It sounds as if you are putting such a premium on this new guy's affections, when in fact, if it's a good situation, it will work itself out. If you were wrong or at fault for this recent break up, learn from it, and apply it to the future. But I would say you probably need to work on yourself first. Believe in yourself, no matter what happened in the abusive relationship, and make sure you know you never need to put up with that kind of thing again.
If, after a while you have gotten yourself right, look him up. See what's going on with him. You don't have to keep him in your life, and if you try to do so before he's ready, you will push him away. You may find that time and your life's situation may lead you to someone else, and you won't care that you're not with this guy anymore. Or maybe you will eventually develop a friendship with him once all of the emotional smoke has cleared for both of you, and it may work out again at a later time.How do you turn things around when they're falling apart?
Talk to him tell him how you feel about him and what you're feeling. Tell him you don't know how to have a proper relationship because of your last, if he doesn't know about the previous one tell him.
Why don't you speak with him about what you've said here. Maybe the two of you can be friends until you get your head on straight, explain it all to him and be as honest as possible so he realizes you are sincere. Good luck!
Thats a tough one.. But you should definitely try praying about it.
It wouldnt hurt to try telling the guy how you feel about him, or at least hint at it to get him back. And if you really want him back, I suggest telling him what he meant to you and how much you need his love or friendship.
But even if you do win him back, there are bigger problems to deal with. The fact that you even brought up your abusive ex into this question, instead of just saying that you want your recent ex back, shows that he still controls you.
If you ever want any relationship to work, you have to leave the past in the past, and not let it influence the present, but instead let it make you smarter and stronger. Dont even bring up your abusive ex to other guys anymore, because it just shows them that theres going to be problems and that you still let it affect you, and it also shows a lack of confidence and insequrety, and it means your not really that over him. If only things had gone good.
Treat your abusive ex as though hes dead, and youre not allowed to speak of the dead in some countries. It may be hard to turn this one around, but at least now you know, you cant let the present know about the past, until the past finally becomes just another life experience to you.
Now I've lost a guy who I really care about. Someone who made me happier than I could have imagined. He broke up with me and the worst part is it's my fault. I dated an abusive guy for way too long and I let him mess me up to the point where I just couldn't have a good relationship with anyone. Even someone as special as the guy I was with. How do I get him back? And how do I get over the damage that the abusive relationship did to me? Even if it takes a while before I'm ready for a relationship I just don't want to lose him for good. I wish there could be some way that I could have a relationship with him when I'm ready for a relationship. How do I do this and how can I turn things around and raise my self-esteem?How do you turn things around when they're falling apart?
you need to work on your self esteem first. relationships should be the cherry on top of your life. They should be something that add to your life. This goes for both men and women. They shouldn't be the sole focus of your life, that will never work out. You can't go to someone else to make you happy if you can't be happy by yourself.
It sounds as if you are putting such a premium on this new guy's affections, when in fact, if it's a good situation, it will work itself out. If you were wrong or at fault for this recent break up, learn from it, and apply it to the future. But I would say you probably need to work on yourself first. Believe in yourself, no matter what happened in the abusive relationship, and make sure you know you never need to put up with that kind of thing again.
If, after a while you have gotten yourself right, look him up. See what's going on with him. You don't have to keep him in your life, and if you try to do so before he's ready, you will push him away. You may find that time and your life's situation may lead you to someone else, and you won't care that you're not with this guy anymore. Or maybe you will eventually develop a friendship with him once all of the emotional smoke has cleared for both of you, and it may work out again at a later time.How do you turn things around when they're falling apart?
Talk to him tell him how you feel about him and what you're feeling. Tell him you don't know how to have a proper relationship because of your last, if he doesn't know about the previous one tell him.
Why don't you speak with him about what you've said here. Maybe the two of you can be friends until you get your head on straight, explain it all to him and be as honest as possible so he realizes you are sincere. Good luck!
Thats a tough one.. But you should definitely try praying about it.
It wouldnt hurt to try telling the guy how you feel about him, or at least hint at it to get him back. And if you really want him back, I suggest telling him what he meant to you and how much you need his love or friendship.
But even if you do win him back, there are bigger problems to deal with. The fact that you even brought up your abusive ex into this question, instead of just saying that you want your recent ex back, shows that he still controls you.
If you ever want any relationship to work, you have to leave the past in the past, and not let it influence the present, but instead let it make you smarter and stronger. Dont even bring up your abusive ex to other guys anymore, because it just shows them that theres going to be problems and that you still let it affect you, and it also shows a lack of confidence and insequrety, and it means your not really that over him. If only things had gone good.
Treat your abusive ex as though hes dead, and youre not allowed to speak of the dead in some countries. It may be hard to turn this one around, but at least now you know, you cant let the present know about the past, until the past finally becomes just another life experience to you.
What is wrong with me? Can any help me understand why I always feel this way?
Ever since 8th grade started, everything has been down hill and I always feel depressed and worried.
It started with my hatred of school. School always makes me really worried. I'm a straight A student, but now it doesn't seem like all the work and worry is worth it. Every morning before school I physically feel sick. I'm always worried about a test, project, or just because the homework was hard and I'm not sure if I did it right or not. Like last week, we were suppose to be in groups of 3 or 4. I was partners with my friend Jane, and another girl Lisa. I don't want to say this in a mean way, but Lisa has a lot of brain problems. She has the intellect of a 8 year old, but she is still in 8th grade. She asked to be in our group, so we said yes to be nice. But there wasn't really much she could do to help other then color. So really it was like a group of 2 instead of 4. So we just finished the project in time, but it turned out really crappy. I really like science, and want to do more science classes in high school. But this was a big project, and now I know i'm going to get a bad grade. So i freaked out about that. I like seriously couldn't calm myself down.
We have another project about the Sleepy Hallow story. But the project makes no sense and we only have until Friday to do it with our partners. The partner I got stuck with doesn't know how to do anything, so it makes it harder. I'm freaking out because it's 100 points!
I'm so confused and don't even know what to do. The teacher is no help either.
I recently started dating one of my best friends. We have been friends since 3rd grade. I don't know why i said yes to dating, I guess it seemed like we knew each other for a while and could make it work with dating. But he makes me feel so uncomfortable. By the 3rd day we were dating he was already saying I love you. And i don't know for sure if I love him yet. Just because we have known each other for years, doesn't mean we have been dating that long. He keeps taking things really fast and i don't know how to tell him to slow down. Right now I just want to break up so i don't have to deal with him, but he really likes me and I don't want to be mean. Every day I go home after school thinking, I can't last any long dating him. He makes things too hard.
I always have that ';I hate the world'; feeling. Lately I never feel like talking to people. I freak out about everything and panic. The little things will make me mad or sad, or just plain break down crying. I don't want to talk to friends or my bf, because they are just making life harder for me. I just want to hide in my room all day and not see people.
I would say it is just normal teenage stuff, but it is like 10 times worse then anyone else is going through. I feel like there is something off about me. Like I have anxiety or depression. i don't know! Can someone help? Or even someone to talk to. I feel like too much is bottled up, but I have no one i trust to talk to.What is wrong with me? Can any help me understand why I always feel this way?
Everyone gets crap like this in their life.
Something I think of nowadays is that life could be worse, so just live it up. Also, I know people think the world will end if they say something like ';I like you a lot, wanna go out';, what you need to do is not be afraid of saying things on your mind.
Talk talk talk to everyone you have a problem with until it isnt a problem, make the world your *****. =)What is wrong with me? Can any help me understand why I always feel this way?
I agree, what you're going through is COMPLETELY normal for that age! I went through it then, too. It's really horrible when you're there, living it, day to day to day, but believe me, it will pass, and then you will forget all about it and be much better! Just stick it through. Try picking up a new exercise, like yoga (if you don't already) or tai chi for relaxation, and/or a martial arts class to get out your pent up frustrations. Go for a jog in the park. Go for a hike with a friend. Get out in nature. Take your mind off your little world and remind yourself of how big the world is. Think of all the things you can be so grateful for -- your health, you can walk, talk, see, hear, smell, eat, dance, think, breathe... you have a roof over your head, food on your table.
Count your blessings, it helps to raise your negative thinking back to positive and will lift back your spirits. :)
Prayer can be helpful. God can help you live a better life if you want Him to. You can have a personal relationship with God by saying the prayer below. God is our Creator, all-knowing, all-powerful, eternal, holy, love. God loves us and sent us His Son, Jesus Christ, so we can go to heaven if we know and follow Him. Forever means without end -- time on and on without death. Forever is what happens after we die. Either we go to heaven and be with God forever, or we go to hell which is very bad and painful forever. The good people who are saved believers in Jesus Christ go to heaven. The bad people go to hell. We need to know and follow God in this world to get to heaven in the next world. We follow God by loving and obeying Him and loving others for Him. Jesus Christ, God's Son, is our bridge to God. Jesus died on the cross to cancel our sins. We need to accept Jesus into our life as our Lord and Savior forever to receive God's blessing and forgiveness plus go to heaven to be with God forever after we die. This is about being a born-again Christian. Faith in God is a gift from God. You can pray for faith in God. Just speak out and ask God for the faith to believe in Him and to follow Him. Some people find faith in God when they realize the beauty in the world is made by God. Evolution can't explain the world's natural beauty, for example, the parks in the world, animals, flowers, peacocks, sunsets, butterflies, rainbows, etc. After you have your faith on, you can pray a sinner's prayer to be a born-again Christian. This prayer is very important and should be said with a sincere heart and faith in God. This is the prayer: ';Dear God, I know that I am a sinner and that Jesus Christ is the sacrifice for our sins. I have done the following sins (state these out) and I pray to discontinue these sins. I pray to receive Jesus Christ into my life as my Lord and Savior forever. In Jesus' name, amen.'; I'm Lutheran and I like the Baptist churches too. You could try out a Christian church and also see about their weekly Bible study group to learn about God's will for your life. You can pray to God about your daily life and have a Christian church pray for you.
I can't believe your school doesn't talk about it like mine did when I was your age.
you going through adolescence depression.
it's not clinical depression, it's just that downness that you feel around that age. it's a chemically based, in other words, its your horomones.
in my middle school, we had to read about it. I couldn't describe what i was feeling and i felt like i was the only one feeling it, until i read the book they issued us. there was a quote about a girl going through the same thing, she said, ';sometimes i just feel like crawling in a hole in the ground and crying forever.';
then, i understood. after a while, i grew out of it, and i kind of fell stupid for ever feeling it.
don't focus too much on what your feeling or it will stick around longer.
if you have to, try hanging around with people that can actually make you smile, join school activities. trust me, it will help and it will pass.
i know you might not believe me now, heaven knows i never believed what the councelors said, but it'll work out, promise
It started with my hatred of school. School always makes me really worried. I'm a straight A student, but now it doesn't seem like all the work and worry is worth it. Every morning before school I physically feel sick. I'm always worried about a test, project, or just because the homework was hard and I'm not sure if I did it right or not. Like last week, we were suppose to be in groups of 3 or 4. I was partners with my friend Jane, and another girl Lisa. I don't want to say this in a mean way, but Lisa has a lot of brain problems. She has the intellect of a 8 year old, but she is still in 8th grade. She asked to be in our group, so we said yes to be nice. But there wasn't really much she could do to help other then color. So really it was like a group of 2 instead of 4. So we just finished the project in time, but it turned out really crappy. I really like science, and want to do more science classes in high school. But this was a big project, and now I know i'm going to get a bad grade. So i freaked out about that. I like seriously couldn't calm myself down.
We have another project about the Sleepy Hallow story. But the project makes no sense and we only have until Friday to do it with our partners. The partner I got stuck with doesn't know how to do anything, so it makes it harder. I'm freaking out because it's 100 points!
I'm so confused and don't even know what to do. The teacher is no help either.
I recently started dating one of my best friends. We have been friends since 3rd grade. I don't know why i said yes to dating, I guess it seemed like we knew each other for a while and could make it work with dating. But he makes me feel so uncomfortable. By the 3rd day we were dating he was already saying I love you. And i don't know for sure if I love him yet. Just because we have known each other for years, doesn't mean we have been dating that long. He keeps taking things really fast and i don't know how to tell him to slow down. Right now I just want to break up so i don't have to deal with him, but he really likes me and I don't want to be mean. Every day I go home after school thinking, I can't last any long dating him. He makes things too hard.
I always have that ';I hate the world'; feeling. Lately I never feel like talking to people. I freak out about everything and panic. The little things will make me mad or sad, or just plain break down crying. I don't want to talk to friends or my bf, because they are just making life harder for me. I just want to hide in my room all day and not see people.
I would say it is just normal teenage stuff, but it is like 10 times worse then anyone else is going through. I feel like there is something off about me. Like I have anxiety or depression. i don't know! Can someone help? Or even someone to talk to. I feel like too much is bottled up, but I have no one i trust to talk to.What is wrong with me? Can any help me understand why I always feel this way?
Everyone gets crap like this in their life.
Something I think of nowadays is that life could be worse, so just live it up. Also, I know people think the world will end if they say something like ';I like you a lot, wanna go out';, what you need to do is not be afraid of saying things on your mind.
Talk talk talk to everyone you have a problem with until it isnt a problem, make the world your *****. =)What is wrong with me? Can any help me understand why I always feel this way?
I agree, what you're going through is COMPLETELY normal for that age! I went through it then, too. It's really horrible when you're there, living it, day to day to day, but believe me, it will pass, and then you will forget all about it and be much better! Just stick it through. Try picking up a new exercise, like yoga (if you don't already) or tai chi for relaxation, and/or a martial arts class to get out your pent up frustrations. Go for a jog in the park. Go for a hike with a friend. Get out in nature. Take your mind off your little world and remind yourself of how big the world is. Think of all the things you can be so grateful for -- your health, you can walk, talk, see, hear, smell, eat, dance, think, breathe... you have a roof over your head, food on your table.
Count your blessings, it helps to raise your negative thinking back to positive and will lift back your spirits. :)
Prayer can be helpful. God can help you live a better life if you want Him to. You can have a personal relationship with God by saying the prayer below. God is our Creator, all-knowing, all-powerful, eternal, holy, love. God loves us and sent us His Son, Jesus Christ, so we can go to heaven if we know and follow Him. Forever means without end -- time on and on without death. Forever is what happens after we die. Either we go to heaven and be with God forever, or we go to hell which is very bad and painful forever. The good people who are saved believers in Jesus Christ go to heaven. The bad people go to hell. We need to know and follow God in this world to get to heaven in the next world. We follow God by loving and obeying Him and loving others for Him. Jesus Christ, God's Son, is our bridge to God. Jesus died on the cross to cancel our sins. We need to accept Jesus into our life as our Lord and Savior forever to receive God's blessing and forgiveness plus go to heaven to be with God forever after we die. This is about being a born-again Christian. Faith in God is a gift from God. You can pray for faith in God. Just speak out and ask God for the faith to believe in Him and to follow Him. Some people find faith in God when they realize the beauty in the world is made by God. Evolution can't explain the world's natural beauty, for example, the parks in the world, animals, flowers, peacocks, sunsets, butterflies, rainbows, etc. After you have your faith on, you can pray a sinner's prayer to be a born-again Christian. This prayer is very important and should be said with a sincere heart and faith in God. This is the prayer: ';Dear God, I know that I am a sinner and that Jesus Christ is the sacrifice for our sins. I have done the following sins (state these out) and I pray to discontinue these sins. I pray to receive Jesus Christ into my life as my Lord and Savior forever. In Jesus' name, amen.'; I'm Lutheran and I like the Baptist churches too. You could try out a Christian church and also see about their weekly Bible study group to learn about God's will for your life. You can pray to God about your daily life and have a Christian church pray for you.
I can't believe your school doesn't talk about it like mine did when I was your age.
you going through adolescence depression.
it's not clinical depression, it's just that downness that you feel around that age. it's a chemically based, in other words, its your horomones.
in my middle school, we had to read about it. I couldn't describe what i was feeling and i felt like i was the only one feeling it, until i read the book they issued us. there was a quote about a girl going through the same thing, she said, ';sometimes i just feel like crawling in a hole in the ground and crying forever.';
then, i understood. after a while, i grew out of it, and i kind of fell stupid for ever feeling it.
don't focus too much on what your feeling or it will stick around longer.
if you have to, try hanging around with people that can actually make you smile, join school activities. trust me, it will help and it will pass.
i know you might not believe me now, heaven knows i never believed what the councelors said, but it'll work out, promise
Did I fall out of love or is it just a phase?
I'd love to hear answers from people my age or older (I am 29): I have been dating my boyfriend for over 3 years (in the first year, we broke up for 2 months but got back together). We live together and have talked about marriage. I have generally been very happy in the relationship but in the past few weeks, suddenly, I am just bored with the relationship. I get resentful towards him and I don't know why, and I am just not excited about us. I told him the other night and he was really a good listener about it; made plans to spend special, quality time together, etc.; in other words, he did all the right things. Even so, I am having doubts about us. And the dumbest part is, I suddenly have been thinking about an ex I dated years ago. Not even someone I have strong love feelings for, but someone who seemed like the ';ideal'; man, the knight in shinnig armor. That person was probably the type I always envisioned marrying: romantic, wouldn't let me pay for anything, well-off, able to support me. My current boyfriend has a good job but he is still very much in the middle of his career. We share things half and half for the most part and suddenly that just feels so unromantic to me. Am I just being a big whiner? I don't know what to do. How do I know if this is a phase or if these are my true feelings? I love him but why don't I feel, well, ';in love?';Did I fall out of love or is it just a phase?
I think you have to really think about this alone, maybe keep a journal because sometimes as you write things out it becomes more clear. You just have to dig down deep inside and try and be brutally honest with yourself as to whether you are or are not in love with him. A few years ago, I was about 27 at the time I was engaged to a man and feeling unexcited about it. I kept ignoring the feeling completely, trying so hard to continue loving him (we were together for 5 years) until one day I broke down in tears out of no where and I finally said to myself ';I am not in love with him!'; Turns out he was feeling the same and we are still friends but we knew we weren't meant to be husband and wife. Since then I have been able to really listen to that voice within and stay true to myself.
I think when you are truly in love with someone it doesn't matter if they fit the mold you always expected. When something bothers you, figure out why it bothers you, then keep digging and you will eventually find the answer. It's hard when you've been with someone for a long time to move on especially when you get along and there's no dramatic break up for one specific reason but you have to do what you know is right. Good luck!Did I fall out of love or is it just a phase?
You just want money.
Your idea of love is the ability to sit on your couch until noon in your pajamas eating bon bons and watching maury povich. You dont care who provides that for you, you just dont want to work or pay or help out in any manner. I hope that guy figures out what a greedy little snot you are and leaves you.
DEEP DOWN IN YOUR HEART YOU KNOW THE ANSWER.
I'm 35 years old and married for 12 years and I felt like you did when I was dating my husband. I love him very much but even after 12 years I still feel the same way. No romance or even feeling good about our relationship, even though it's fairly good. I just feel there was someone out there for me that I could've really loved the way I want to. If I were you I would call it quits, even if it's for a little while to try and figure out what YOU want. Dont live your life unhappy if that's what you are. Hope this helps you and good luck.
I am 36...
When I was 29, I felt I must know what a mid-life crisis felt like. My 20s behind me, here comes real total adulthood and responsibility, I should by now have my dream job, own a house, etc etc...
Turning 31, 32, 33, 34, 35, 36 has been fine. But that year was a tough one. Maybe you have that same itch, clock ticking, looking around you to see what you have and what you could have had. Consider carefully before you chuck it all.
i was reading and thought i could give a very educated answer and maybe translate what you wrote and help you out. but then i got to the part where you started to describe your ideal ex.
romance is not about having eveything paid for you everytime, neither is it chivalry. support you and your ridiculously expensive tastes? im not saying you have expensive taste, but thats how it comes across to me. its sad to know some women are like this. i could go on and make you think about this, deeply, but i just cant be arsssed.
to get back to the whole 'feelings' part, i think you are making as many excuses to yourself as possible, as to why you arent right for each other. clearly you are not happy in this relationship. it can happen. i know many people who were like fire in the first two three years of a relationship, but the romance just fizzled away.
answer this...are your daily lives mundane, feels like clockwork? same old same old?
EDIT - ';ANN B'; If you dont mind answering a few questions and dont really have difficulty parting with experiences and feelings, could you email me so i can email you back? Cant find any way to contact you from your profile. My questions will mainly focus around what you just wrote. Just a part of me bettering myself.
No harm done if you dont want to. Thanks.
EDIT 2 - Aaah now i see. The extra info did help. Im a strong believer of there being two sides to a story, however i dont think it may be necessary here as your feelings have nearly gone. Youve told him how you feel. He needs to change. Not spend quality time, but really change himself. His attitude, his way of life, even his job. Im guessing the sex aint too great either. I dont want to advice breaking up, even for a few months maybe, but as that other person posted, deep down, you'll know what you have to do. Maybe this will be the kick up the arrrse he needs.
I have felt this way many times, when I feel trapped in a situation. Not saying you are trapped, but step outside of the relationship for a moment and list the benefits of being with this person. Really list all the qualities that made you fall for him. I married my sweetie right out of high school and three years into our marriage, it became dull to me. I had to really evaluate what was best for both of us. We ended up divorcing after 5 years. Not a positive answer, I know, but it was the best thing for both of us and we have both moved on to very healthy lives and remained friends ever since.
I think you have to really think about this alone, maybe keep a journal because sometimes as you write things out it becomes more clear. You just have to dig down deep inside and try and be brutally honest with yourself as to whether you are or are not in love with him. A few years ago, I was about 27 at the time I was engaged to a man and feeling unexcited about it. I kept ignoring the feeling completely, trying so hard to continue loving him (we were together for 5 years) until one day I broke down in tears out of no where and I finally said to myself ';I am not in love with him!'; Turns out he was feeling the same and we are still friends but we knew we weren't meant to be husband and wife. Since then I have been able to really listen to that voice within and stay true to myself.
I think when you are truly in love with someone it doesn't matter if they fit the mold you always expected. When something bothers you, figure out why it bothers you, then keep digging and you will eventually find the answer. It's hard when you've been with someone for a long time to move on especially when you get along and there's no dramatic break up for one specific reason but you have to do what you know is right. Good luck!Did I fall out of love or is it just a phase?
You just want money.
Your idea of love is the ability to sit on your couch until noon in your pajamas eating bon bons and watching maury povich. You dont care who provides that for you, you just dont want to work or pay or help out in any manner. I hope that guy figures out what a greedy little snot you are and leaves you.
DEEP DOWN IN YOUR HEART YOU KNOW THE ANSWER.
I'm 35 years old and married for 12 years and I felt like you did when I was dating my husband. I love him very much but even after 12 years I still feel the same way. No romance or even feeling good about our relationship, even though it's fairly good. I just feel there was someone out there for me that I could've really loved the way I want to. If I were you I would call it quits, even if it's for a little while to try and figure out what YOU want. Dont live your life unhappy if that's what you are. Hope this helps you and good luck.
I am 36...
When I was 29, I felt I must know what a mid-life crisis felt like. My 20s behind me, here comes real total adulthood and responsibility, I should by now have my dream job, own a house, etc etc...
Turning 31, 32, 33, 34, 35, 36 has been fine. But that year was a tough one. Maybe you have that same itch, clock ticking, looking around you to see what you have and what you could have had. Consider carefully before you chuck it all.
i was reading and thought i could give a very educated answer and maybe translate what you wrote and help you out. but then i got to the part where you started to describe your ideal ex.
romance is not about having eveything paid for you everytime, neither is it chivalry. support you and your ridiculously expensive tastes? im not saying you have expensive taste, but thats how it comes across to me. its sad to know some women are like this. i could go on and make you think about this, deeply, but i just cant be arsssed.
to get back to the whole 'feelings' part, i think you are making as many excuses to yourself as possible, as to why you arent right for each other. clearly you are not happy in this relationship. it can happen. i know many people who were like fire in the first two three years of a relationship, but the romance just fizzled away.
answer this...are your daily lives mundane, feels like clockwork? same old same old?
EDIT - ';ANN B'; If you dont mind answering a few questions and dont really have difficulty parting with experiences and feelings, could you email me so i can email you back? Cant find any way to contact you from your profile. My questions will mainly focus around what you just wrote. Just a part of me bettering myself.
No harm done if you dont want to. Thanks.
EDIT 2 - Aaah now i see. The extra info did help. Im a strong believer of there being two sides to a story, however i dont think it may be necessary here as your feelings have nearly gone. Youve told him how you feel. He needs to change. Not spend quality time, but really change himself. His attitude, his way of life, even his job. Im guessing the sex aint too great either. I dont want to advice breaking up, even for a few months maybe, but as that other person posted, deep down, you'll know what you have to do. Maybe this will be the kick up the arrrse he needs.
I have felt this way many times, when I feel trapped in a situation. Not saying you are trapped, but step outside of the relationship for a moment and list the benefits of being with this person. Really list all the qualities that made you fall for him. I married my sweetie right out of high school and three years into our marriage, it became dull to me. I had to really evaluate what was best for both of us. We ended up divorcing after 5 years. Not a positive answer, I know, but it was the best thing for both of us and we have both moved on to very healthy lives and remained friends ever since.
Help me in this...I've never had a girlfriend?
ok...All of my friends have had girlfriends except me =S
I dunno y...i think in a better way than all of them and know how to deal with everybody...I'm a bit shy but when I try to get rid of my shyness i get in a problem and I become the center of it and every bad thing comes on me...
I've been dreaming of someone to understand me...to understand the way I think...or even someone to care about me (a girl)...about 12 new girls came to my class...but I'm in the IGCSE class and their not =S...I study a lot and I don't have much time to deal or even talk to them =S...And I find it a bit difficult to know these girls the way I know the ones that were in my class for years =S...Please help me =) =SHelp me in this...I've never had a girlfriend?
Aww... you sound so sweet. I don't know what's wrong with all those girls. I like you.
I dunno y...i think in a better way than all of them and know how to deal with everybody...I'm a bit shy but when I try to get rid of my shyness i get in a problem and I become the center of it and every bad thing comes on me...
I've been dreaming of someone to understand me...to understand the way I think...or even someone to care about me (a girl)...about 12 new girls came to my class...but I'm in the IGCSE class and their not =S...I study a lot and I don't have much time to deal or even talk to them =S...And I find it a bit difficult to know these girls the way I know the ones that were in my class for years =S...Please help me =) =SHelp me in this...I've never had a girlfriend?
Aww... you sound so sweet. I don't know what's wrong with all those girls. I like you.
Why doesn't my Scorpio kick in like it is ';supposed'; to ;-)?
I keep reading responses from people on here as well as online astrology research and Scorpios are given ';credit'; for their vindictiveness and retaliatory abilities yet somehow I am not spiteful or vindictive. I don't understand why? I have a Scorpio Mars AND Venus. Shouldn't I be taking no prisoners : )
When I find myself in a position where I would have to choose to get a person back I will choose not to do it.
I do what I think over what I feel. If I find myself getting emotional about something and even really angry I go through a series of questions-
How important is it really?
Do you really even care enough about it?
What would providing a reaction really prove anyway?
Is the person even someone you are close to or care about?
Blah blah blah....you get the picture. If there are a lot of yeses to my answers then I talk to my best friends and they give me even more reason why I shouldn't care.
Why am I a lover not a fighter with this chart? I'm baffled :-)
Me:
Sun: Sadge
Moon: Leo
Ascendant: Gemini
Mercury: Capricorn
Mars %26amp; Venus: Scorpio
Why doesn't my Scorpio kick in like it is ';supposed'; to ;-)?
sun in sagittarius = free lover
moon in leo = attention seeker
ascendant = gemini (face of a gemini)
mars %26amp; venus in scorpio = conflict between the fighter and the lover
looking at your planetary locations alone can't really tell me why you're a lover and not a fighter, but looking at your placement, it doesn't look like you're the type to really ';fight';. Your sun and moon are in a fire sign. fire signs are known for being ';intense, passionate lovers'; in a different context against water signs. mercury's not really important here.
what is important is your mars and venus. scorpio's comfortable in mars, but not in venus. venus in scorpio is not very strong, while mars is very strong (as ancient ruler); however, you also have to look at which house it is located in. I'm assuming that it's probably not located in a house that would cause you to be a ';fighter';. a typical fighter house would be mars in scorpio in 1st house (house close to the ascendant). but since you have venus in scorpio as well, it would mitigate any ';aggressiveness'; of the scorpio with the ';venus charms'; anyways.
It's not that great having ';fighter'; image (i have mars in scorpio in the 1st house...). people think you're trying to argue with them when you're not.Why doesn't my Scorpio kick in like it is ';supposed'; to ;-)?
People misunderstand Scorpio (imo). The Scorpio in my experience tells them the truth about themself or the situation and is hurt and leaves to lick their wounds. People don't like to hear the truth (the resistance to hearing it means they know it is the truth). Also, when the scorpio walks away there is no one to argue with. Hence the scorpio has the last word and it is a powerful one. Actions speak louder than words and shuting the door is a very decisive statement.
Humanitarian Sag sun- lover of all people
deep thinker Gemini rising- less emotion, more thinking
Feelings Moon Squares Mars/Venus to dilute the powers of all...
How does your Leo react to things? When finally pushed too far do you finally explode into a lion's roar of anger, only for it to dissolve as quickly as it erupted? I'm guessing that this trait has also been diluted, but I am curious.
Essentially scorps are of three types...one the usual revengeful scorp,
two the eagle...who crush the enemy %26amp; soar high , three the chameleon/lizard whose wrath goes inward ...he does not actively take revenge but pray for harm of the enemy. Scorpio characteristic is heavily mellowed by moon position %26amp; ascendant position. a gemini asc. is bound to show the dilemma required for revenge...a lion often pardons his enemy when he is full.
Finally.... U R a sajji....not a scorp at all.
Not all Scorpios are like that. Your main stuff is all male signs (Sun, Moon, Rising). That puts your Scorpio in the 12 house of Pisces. Hidden away like a bad habit.
Probably more introspective and spiritual. Don't worry about it.
I am a Scorpio rising with a Sag sun, I've often wondered the same. However, I think the fact that I'm cautious with who I have around me, may be a Scorpio trait.
because its not true
Do you want it to kick in or something?
Don't feed/confirm my ego more...
Because the whole thing is made up?curly hair styles computer security
When I find myself in a position where I would have to choose to get a person back I will choose not to do it.
I do what I think over what I feel. If I find myself getting emotional about something and even really angry I go through a series of questions-
How important is it really?
Do you really even care enough about it?
What would providing a reaction really prove anyway?
Is the person even someone you are close to or care about?
Blah blah blah....you get the picture. If there are a lot of yeses to my answers then I talk to my best friends and they give me even more reason why I shouldn't care.
Why am I a lover not a fighter with this chart? I'm baffled :-)
Me:
Sun: Sadge
Moon: Leo
Ascendant: Gemini
Mercury: Capricorn
Mars %26amp; Venus: Scorpio
Why doesn't my Scorpio kick in like it is ';supposed'; to ;-)?
sun in sagittarius = free lover
moon in leo = attention seeker
ascendant = gemini (face of a gemini)
mars %26amp; venus in scorpio = conflict between the fighter and the lover
looking at your planetary locations alone can't really tell me why you're a lover and not a fighter, but looking at your placement, it doesn't look like you're the type to really ';fight';. Your sun and moon are in a fire sign. fire signs are known for being ';intense, passionate lovers'; in a different context against water signs. mercury's not really important here.
what is important is your mars and venus. scorpio's comfortable in mars, but not in venus. venus in scorpio is not very strong, while mars is very strong (as ancient ruler); however, you also have to look at which house it is located in. I'm assuming that it's probably not located in a house that would cause you to be a ';fighter';. a typical fighter house would be mars in scorpio in 1st house (house close to the ascendant). but since you have venus in scorpio as well, it would mitigate any ';aggressiveness'; of the scorpio with the ';venus charms'; anyways.
It's not that great having ';fighter'; image (i have mars in scorpio in the 1st house...). people think you're trying to argue with them when you're not.Why doesn't my Scorpio kick in like it is ';supposed'; to ;-)?
People misunderstand Scorpio (imo). The Scorpio in my experience tells them the truth about themself or the situation and is hurt and leaves to lick their wounds. People don't like to hear the truth (the resistance to hearing it means they know it is the truth). Also, when the scorpio walks away there is no one to argue with. Hence the scorpio has the last word and it is a powerful one. Actions speak louder than words and shuting the door is a very decisive statement.
Humanitarian Sag sun- lover of all people
deep thinker Gemini rising- less emotion, more thinking
Feelings Moon Squares Mars/Venus to dilute the powers of all...
How does your Leo react to things? When finally pushed too far do you finally explode into a lion's roar of anger, only for it to dissolve as quickly as it erupted? I'm guessing that this trait has also been diluted, but I am curious.
Essentially scorps are of three types...one the usual revengeful scorp,
two the eagle...who crush the enemy %26amp; soar high , three the chameleon/lizard whose wrath goes inward ...he does not actively take revenge but pray for harm of the enemy. Scorpio characteristic is heavily mellowed by moon position %26amp; ascendant position. a gemini asc. is bound to show the dilemma required for revenge...a lion often pardons his enemy when he is full.
Finally.... U R a sajji....not a scorp at all.
Not all Scorpios are like that. Your main stuff is all male signs (Sun, Moon, Rising). That puts your Scorpio in the 12 house of Pisces. Hidden away like a bad habit.
Probably more introspective and spiritual. Don't worry about it.
I am a Scorpio rising with a Sag sun, I've often wondered the same. However, I think the fact that I'm cautious with who I have around me, may be a Scorpio trait.
because its not true
Do you want it to kick in or something?
Don't feed/confirm my ego more...
Because the whole thing is made up?
What can i do.......?
This has been on my mind for a few months now and makes me feel really depressed a lot..
I'm 16 and I think I have social anxiety..or something like it. I get really nervous and sweaty and hot in situations where I'm in front of other people..even something like answering a stupid question in class does this to me...I'm fine with my friends mostly but even sometimes with them or with friends I don't see often I get all quiet and barely say anything..
It's like my mind is completely blank...I never know what to say. Whether it's thru texting or actual face to face talking I NEVER know what to say I can't think of a single thing. Even someone asking me something like hey what's up leaves my mind blank...and for that reason I don't really text much...
When I'm with a few friends and stuff...usually I end up all quiet and not having fun just because I don't know how to act or what to say...and I feel so self conscious. To make things worse, most people at my school think I'm a complete loser and nerd cuz I get good grades and am so quiet. I just want to be a normal kid like everyone else who can hang out and have a good time..instead I just get depressed because I don't know what to say what to talk about and don't know why. I get really depressed when I think about it all..why can't I be able to talk to people without it being so hard like everyone else can...whenever I meet new people I pretty much don't say anything..only when they ask me something directly i answer and even then it's short and simply answers the question..after hanging out with people I feel really bad because I always think they're judging me and think I'm a loser...always.
What can I do? I think I have social anxiety but not sure..never actually been diagnosed. My parents think I'm just shy but it HAS to be more than that...half the time I have trouble talking to my family! that's just pathetic. I want to be able to talk to people and just relax and have a good time but I never can. It's the worst around girls...not sure why it just is. I've pretty much given up trying to talk more..no matter what I do nothing ever makes it any easier and I'm tired of feeling like crap because of it..
I know it's long..sorry. Anyone have any advice?What can i do.......?
Know that God can help you live a better life if you want Him to help you. You can have a personal relationship with God by saying the prayer below. God is our Creator, all-knowing, all-powerful, eternal, holy, love. God loves us and sent us His Son, Jesus Christ, so we can go to heaven if we know and follow Him. Forever means without end -- time on and on without death. Forever is what happens after we die. Either we go to heaven and be with God forever, or we go to hell which is very bad and painful forever. The good people who are saved believers in Jesus Christ go to heaven. The bad people go to hell. We need to know and follow God in this world to get to heaven in the next world. We follow God by loving and obeying Him and loving others for Him. Jesus Christ, God's Son, is our bridge to God. Jesus died on the cross to cancel our sins. We need to accept Jesus into our life as our Lord and Savior forever to receive God's blessing and forgiveness plus go to heaven to be with God forever after we die. This is about being a born-again Christian. Faith in God is a gift from God. You can pray for faith in God. Just speak out and ask God for the faith to believe in Him and to follow Him. Some people find faith in God when they realize the beauty in the world is made by God. Evolution can't explain the world's natural beauty, for example, the parks in the world, animals, flowers, peacocks, sunsets, butterflies, rainbows, etc. After you have your faith on, you can pray a sinner's prayer to be a born-again Christian. This prayer is very important and should be said with a sincere heart and faith in God. This is the prayer: ';Dear God, I know that I am a sinner and that Jesus Christ is the sacrifice for our sins. I have done the following sins (state these out) and I pray to discontinue these sins. I pray to receive Jesus Christ into my life as my Lord and Savior forever. In Jesus' name, amen.'; I'm Lutheran and I like the Baptist churches too. You could check out a Christian church and also see about their weekly Bible study group as a good way to learn about God's will for your life. You can pray to God about your daily life and have a Christian church pray for you.What can i do.......?
At 16 you're too young to be a ';loser';. And the fact that you get good grades proves that you're not. But you are very shy. Sometimes this is a function of being very smart and finding ordinary teen conversations boring and embarrassing. Do you read a lot more than your friends? And do you read material which is above their level? If so, I'd guess you are a person who won't find your true social niche until you get into college.
Right now you may be trapped in a social milieu which is beneath your abilities. You might anticipate this and hold back your superior comments because you know you will be talking over the heads of your friends and they might reject you for doing this. You probably do have some social anxiety over this fix you're in...but let me assure you it's quite temporary.
Keep up your studies and look forward to getting to college. I'll bet you a dollar to a doughnut that you'll blossom once you've gotten into a higher functioning group of people.
What you have is called being a teenager. I was in your shoes before. A lot of people are, more than you think.
all those ';normal'; people you see.. they just make it look easy. Inside they feel like you, ponder over how to respond to texts, dont know what to say, etc.
people hit this stage at different times. its just something you will grow out of. are you out of your awkward looking stage yet? for many people, this whole mess fixes when they get out of awkward stage and become really pretty.
Just be patient. You will be so much better when you finally get out of high school. Keep your grades up and don't be afraid to be yourself. You are too self conscious. Be kind to yourself
You don't sound like someone who needs medical intervention, but counseling would probably do you good.
I'm 16 and I think I have social anxiety..or something like it. I get really nervous and sweaty and hot in situations where I'm in front of other people..even something like answering a stupid question in class does this to me...I'm fine with my friends mostly but even sometimes with them or with friends I don't see often I get all quiet and barely say anything..
It's like my mind is completely blank...I never know what to say. Whether it's thru texting or actual face to face talking I NEVER know what to say I can't think of a single thing. Even someone asking me something like hey what's up leaves my mind blank...and for that reason I don't really text much...
When I'm with a few friends and stuff...usually I end up all quiet and not having fun just because I don't know how to act or what to say...and I feel so self conscious. To make things worse, most people at my school think I'm a complete loser and nerd cuz I get good grades and am so quiet. I just want to be a normal kid like everyone else who can hang out and have a good time..instead I just get depressed because I don't know what to say what to talk about and don't know why. I get really depressed when I think about it all..why can't I be able to talk to people without it being so hard like everyone else can...whenever I meet new people I pretty much don't say anything..only when they ask me something directly i answer and even then it's short and simply answers the question..after hanging out with people I feel really bad because I always think they're judging me and think I'm a loser...always.
What can I do? I think I have social anxiety but not sure..never actually been diagnosed. My parents think I'm just shy but it HAS to be more than that...half the time I have trouble talking to my family! that's just pathetic. I want to be able to talk to people and just relax and have a good time but I never can. It's the worst around girls...not sure why it just is. I've pretty much given up trying to talk more..no matter what I do nothing ever makes it any easier and I'm tired of feeling like crap because of it..
I know it's long..sorry. Anyone have any advice?What can i do.......?
Know that God can help you live a better life if you want Him to help you. You can have a personal relationship with God by saying the prayer below. God is our Creator, all-knowing, all-powerful, eternal, holy, love. God loves us and sent us His Son, Jesus Christ, so we can go to heaven if we know and follow Him. Forever means without end -- time on and on without death. Forever is what happens after we die. Either we go to heaven and be with God forever, or we go to hell which is very bad and painful forever. The good people who are saved believers in Jesus Christ go to heaven. The bad people go to hell. We need to know and follow God in this world to get to heaven in the next world. We follow God by loving and obeying Him and loving others for Him. Jesus Christ, God's Son, is our bridge to God. Jesus died on the cross to cancel our sins. We need to accept Jesus into our life as our Lord and Savior forever to receive God's blessing and forgiveness plus go to heaven to be with God forever after we die. This is about being a born-again Christian. Faith in God is a gift from God. You can pray for faith in God. Just speak out and ask God for the faith to believe in Him and to follow Him. Some people find faith in God when they realize the beauty in the world is made by God. Evolution can't explain the world's natural beauty, for example, the parks in the world, animals, flowers, peacocks, sunsets, butterflies, rainbows, etc. After you have your faith on, you can pray a sinner's prayer to be a born-again Christian. This prayer is very important and should be said with a sincere heart and faith in God. This is the prayer: ';Dear God, I know that I am a sinner and that Jesus Christ is the sacrifice for our sins. I have done the following sins (state these out) and I pray to discontinue these sins. I pray to receive Jesus Christ into my life as my Lord and Savior forever. In Jesus' name, amen.'; I'm Lutheran and I like the Baptist churches too. You could check out a Christian church and also see about their weekly Bible study group as a good way to learn about God's will for your life. You can pray to God about your daily life and have a Christian church pray for you.What can i do.......?
At 16 you're too young to be a ';loser';. And the fact that you get good grades proves that you're not. But you are very shy. Sometimes this is a function of being very smart and finding ordinary teen conversations boring and embarrassing. Do you read a lot more than your friends? And do you read material which is above their level? If so, I'd guess you are a person who won't find your true social niche until you get into college.
Right now you may be trapped in a social milieu which is beneath your abilities. You might anticipate this and hold back your superior comments because you know you will be talking over the heads of your friends and they might reject you for doing this. You probably do have some social anxiety over this fix you're in...but let me assure you it's quite temporary.
Keep up your studies and look forward to getting to college. I'll bet you a dollar to a doughnut that you'll blossom once you've gotten into a higher functioning group of people.
What you have is called being a teenager. I was in your shoes before. A lot of people are, more than you think.
all those ';normal'; people you see.. they just make it look easy. Inside they feel like you, ponder over how to respond to texts, dont know what to say, etc.
people hit this stage at different times. its just something you will grow out of. are you out of your awkward looking stage yet? for many people, this whole mess fixes when they get out of awkward stage and become really pretty.
Just be patient. You will be so much better when you finally get out of high school. Keep your grades up and don't be afraid to be yourself. You are too self conscious. Be kind to yourself
You don't sound like someone who needs medical intervention, but counseling would probably do you good.
Question about dealing with men? How open should you be and how soon?
I'm 26, turning 27 in the summer. Even though I'm young now, I will not be young forever and I want some stability and consistency in all areas of my life. I do want to get married and have a family one day but there is something serious preventing that from happening.
I've dated a lot in the past and even been engaged and almost married once but everything in terms of my relationships/experiences with men have been disasters. I am now very pessimistic about whether there is even someone who is compatible for me and I know I'm not that bad of a catch. I said that I want to make 2009 to be the year that dating gets better for me. Now, I do overthink everything and I try to come up with strategies for how I will act on dates or with men in general. Even though some men are just jerks regardless, I am looking at myself too.
So, one thing about me is that I'm not expressive about my feelings, I've always been that way and it's nothing personal usually. I am always nice in a formal, standoffish, aloof kind of way and I don't know if I need to be more agressive. Is it good to say and do things that let a man know I like him? I always thought of that as being pushy and desperate but maybe I'm wrong?
I know this seems basic but I'm trying to do everything the right way because I don't know if it's me on some level. Everyone around me is finding love, getting in nice relationships, getting married, and I'm just growing older and frustrated. Thanks.Question about dealing with men? How open should you be and how soon?
';Strategies';, ';Rules'; and the like are all a bunch of crap when it comes to dating. If you don't be yourself, you are in a sense ';false advertising';.
The only way you will ever find happiness is to be honest with both yourself and your prospects.Question about dealing with men? How open should you be and how soon?
I think that when you find the right person, you won't have to question whether or not you should open up -- it'll happen automatically. If you find that you're dating and not wanting to express yourself with the other person, then that should tell you he's not the right one. Don't worry about everyone around you finding love -- everyone is different. Take your time.
Open up ! Don't come up with strategies for how you will act. Are you fake? Because that's how you appear to others acting that way. Be yourself.
Yes, its ok for a woman to say if she likes a guy of compliments him. This is a major problem for some women as they want all the compliments, but give nothing back in the same way.
Good Luck
LOL. You sound like me.
But yes, be open and upfront with him from the jump. I've learned men like outspoken and sometimes even a little pushy (not too pushy) women. I say Go for it! Good Luck =]. Hope Everything works out for you! :)
If you find yourself getting into the same patterns maybe it is time to change strategy or maybe be more open minded in your selection or elimination process in relationships? Maybe a change the flow your relationships progress?
Well life usually isn't so plannable like you want it to be, so quite trying to plan it out so much, just set some goals and when you reach the, set some new ones and work towards them, be more open and try to be less shy about talking to guys, try to be where you tend to meet lots of people, say like groups with like interests you like. If you meet a man you like, how is he going to know if you don't tell him? Don't throw yourself at him, just tell him you find him interesting to you and then just let things go along as you talk with him. Just look at what you did in the past and try not to do anything that turned out bad for you , yet keep the good from it.
The best way to be is to always be yourself; that should be the one thing you don't have to think about...it comes naturally.
You are definitely over-thinking this; there is no such thing as doing everything right.
You need to relax and let go, and please don't focus on everyone else around you. You'll find out later that some of them should have waited.
Anyways, be yourself, and when your Mr. Right comes along, he will love and accept you for who you are.
I've dated a lot in the past and even been engaged and almost married once but everything in terms of my relationships/experiences with men have been disasters. I am now very pessimistic about whether there is even someone who is compatible for me and I know I'm not that bad of a catch. I said that I want to make 2009 to be the year that dating gets better for me. Now, I do overthink everything and I try to come up with strategies for how I will act on dates or with men in general. Even though some men are just jerks regardless, I am looking at myself too.
So, one thing about me is that I'm not expressive about my feelings, I've always been that way and it's nothing personal usually. I am always nice in a formal, standoffish, aloof kind of way and I don't know if I need to be more agressive. Is it good to say and do things that let a man know I like him? I always thought of that as being pushy and desperate but maybe I'm wrong?
I know this seems basic but I'm trying to do everything the right way because I don't know if it's me on some level. Everyone around me is finding love, getting in nice relationships, getting married, and I'm just growing older and frustrated. Thanks.Question about dealing with men? How open should you be and how soon?
';Strategies';, ';Rules'; and the like are all a bunch of crap when it comes to dating. If you don't be yourself, you are in a sense ';false advertising';.
The only way you will ever find happiness is to be honest with both yourself and your prospects.Question about dealing with men? How open should you be and how soon?
I think that when you find the right person, you won't have to question whether or not you should open up -- it'll happen automatically. If you find that you're dating and not wanting to express yourself with the other person, then that should tell you he's not the right one. Don't worry about everyone around you finding love -- everyone is different. Take your time.
Open up ! Don't come up with strategies for how you will act. Are you fake? Because that's how you appear to others acting that way. Be yourself.
Yes, its ok for a woman to say if she likes a guy of compliments him. This is a major problem for some women as they want all the compliments, but give nothing back in the same way.
Good Luck
LOL. You sound like me.
But yes, be open and upfront with him from the jump. I've learned men like outspoken and sometimes even a little pushy (not too pushy) women. I say Go for it! Good Luck =]. Hope Everything works out for you! :)
If you find yourself getting into the same patterns maybe it is time to change strategy or maybe be more open minded in your selection or elimination process in relationships? Maybe a change the flow your relationships progress?
Well life usually isn't so plannable like you want it to be, so quite trying to plan it out so much, just set some goals and when you reach the, set some new ones and work towards them, be more open and try to be less shy about talking to guys, try to be where you tend to meet lots of people, say like groups with like interests you like. If you meet a man you like, how is he going to know if you don't tell him? Don't throw yourself at him, just tell him you find him interesting to you and then just let things go along as you talk with him. Just look at what you did in the past and try not to do anything that turned out bad for you , yet keep the good from it.
The best way to be is to always be yourself; that should be the one thing you don't have to think about...it comes naturally.
You are definitely over-thinking this; there is no such thing as doing everything right.
You need to relax and let go, and please don't focus on everyone else around you. You'll find out later that some of them should have waited.
Anyways, be yourself, and when your Mr. Right comes along, he will love and accept you for who you are.
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