Close your eyes (not tightly) and inhale through your nose and exhale through your mouth (blowing steadily) until you have calmed or the person leaves. This works great - I have actually taught my children to do this when the get angry or hurt. It's hard to believe but if it works for little kids and their tantrums, it will really work for someone that does have at least a little control over themselves.How do you keep your mood even with someone you want to scream at?
Break something. This is how I got over my anger and frustration with others.
With whom and in what situations?
At work: to simply remember that you're in a professional setting and must act accordingly at all times.
Socially. Honestly if it's a specific person, I'd either limit or cut my association with with. If it's with nearly everyone, I'd assume it was me, and work on learning patience. It's a virtue! :)
All I can say is self-control. Try thinking of something calming while at the same time paying attention to the person. Just try to keep your cool and tell yourself that the idiot is gonna be in you face all day (it sucks if they will be though)
Just stare at them.
they'll go away sooner or later :)
I puase. I take about five to ten seconds to absorb what the person is saying. Then JUST TO BE SURE, I repeat it back to them, so that I am sure I understood what they meant, and also to give them the opportunity to HEAR it coming from me and directed towrd them. Sometimes this makes the person reword or even rethink things and can cause a resolution to now become avaiable to the problem. And sometimes it doesn't. In the times where it doesn't I tell them that hey, I heard wht you said and not only do I not agree, but I think I'm pretty pis**ed right now, and will need a few minutes to gather myself. I then politely excuse myself off of the phone or out of the room then try to come back and continue. If still this does not work, then I yell, just like anyonther warmblooded person. Great communication isn't going to always work, nor what is written in the relationship books on how to communicate. But sometimes, when we go ahead and argue, we come out on the other side of it stronger and with a little more of a bond to the person than before, because we have let that person see us at our most foul tempers, and both parties weatherd the storm. Try these techniques a couple of times and see if they work for you. It can only help. Blessings...
I find that walking away and giving myself time to cool down helps me a lot...
im like that to i just keep it all bottled up and i got to the gym and take it out on a nice punching bag or i talk to who ever is maken me mad. like i had one of my ex's girl friends yellen at me and getting right in my face to tell you the truth i wanted to punch her in the face but i just smiled and thought about all the mean things i could say but didn't hold it in
take slow deep breaths, and always keep a smile on your face.
i take pills for that!! haha.... it is called mood stabelizers, my shrink think i have lost the plot - dont mind if you think so too
xx
u know the answr dont u...???
u noe u can get hot headed with people and end up saying whatever u feel off the top of ur head...
rite...
so next time u get angry...simply remember that u need 2 keep ur calm...dont get pissed off so easily..practise a bit of a self-chek...keep ur nerves...remembr the world's not on u...take it easy...relax and if posibl pass ur colleagues a smile...it helps...bliv me....
Picture them as maybe they won't be around tomorrow, and if your mean to them and they die you will feel guilty, try to picture people as if it was their last day on earth, but I will have to admit some people do deserve to be told off!!!
its very difficult to do - that's why we end up screaming at people...
I have this problem when dealing with my mother ALL the time. Try to remove yourself from the situation and cool down on your own. Just do whatever you need to do, but don't talk/look/talk to that person until you are completely sure you can face them and deal with the situation without exploding.
It's always nice to come back prepared with your argument logically planned out, too.
This is why people take anger management classes. If it doesn't come naturally, you need some tools at your disposal to help you keep your cool. Simply counting to ten in your head and breathing will help. You also could try removing yourself from the situation.
Sincerely, it is horribly hard. Just take 2 deep,clean breaths and look away.(ignore the person for a minute or two.)
GOOD LUCK!
I think it's best to stop yourself before exploding on someone, and give yourself time to collect your thoughts without your emotions getting in the way. Find a way to cool yourself down. That's the important thing.
Don't bottle it up and don't vent it either.
Screaming doesn't help, punching stuff doesn't help, and ignoring the problem doesn't help. You need other ways to let frustration out without explosions. If you are an intellectual type, you can often just sit and think about what made you angry and you will realize exploding is a silly answer. Lots of things can help. If you are the more active type, try something active like running. A good run helps cool me down and gives me time to think.
bite your tongue:-)
I often get irritated and lose my patience with people. When I'm about ready to completely blow my top I try and remember something funny or silly that person did. If I don't know them that will then I try and picture them wearing ridiculous underwear under their clothes. I can often get myself to near giggling (I have a rather vivid imagination) and that diffuses me rather well. If that doesn't work I excuse myself for whatever reason, call my friend, and tell her about all the asinine things I had just witnessed. She gets a good giggle out of it and by the end I feel better.
Then again, some people really just need a good tongue lashing. Just make sure it's not your boss.
No comments:
Post a Comment